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writes:Hello peopleIve been seeing my new guy for about 2 weeks ,we have slept together and hes never cum when doing anything what is all this about??I no he does smoke weed and is always drinking down the pub ive just never experienced it with any other guy ive been with ( hes nealy 10 yers older then me)And then last nite i was sucking him off when went to touch his balls and he shouted dont do that i dont like it, he said i hurt him i hardly touched him I personally thought guys liked they balls being touched Yeah there is a lot we have 2 learn about each other but im i bad at things in bed Is there any reasons out there why he didnt like me touching his balls or could he have a problam with why he doesnt cum when with me Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2010): hey the alcohol and the weed probably play a big part on why you can't get him off..as for the ball things, quite a few guys really don't like that. they find it weird and uncomfortable, and sometimes it just hurts.the the person below said, you should just ask questions and figure out what he likes and what he doesn't like before doing anything. ask him what gets him off and if you feel comfortable doing it, then do.i hope this helps.
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (25 March 2010):
 I would blame the alcohol before blaming weed.
Don't tho blame yourself for being bad in bed. His substance use would be the number one issue, but beyond that everyone is different and will therefore like different things. It is taking the time to experiment and ask questions with each new partner that enables one to press all the right buttons and avoid the wrong one's - for them!. Do that, find out what rocks him and doesn't, and he'll think your a damn sex godess.
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reader, LethalInjection-x +, writes (25 March 2010):
 Two possible reasons for him not cumming: cannabis, not knowing you well enough.
It's been two weeks.
Secondly, for some men their testicles are really sensitive. I've had exes that LOVED having them played with, and exes that would rather me punch them in the face than show them any attention there..
I think the main thing to get from this, is that you need to get to know someone properly before having sex with them. When you get to know someone, you can talk about sex openly, about what you like and don't like.. etc.. opposed to finding out in the heat of the moment - which leaves people feeling awkward/embarrassed.
Hope that helps :) x
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reader, mikehimself  +, writes (25 March 2010):
I'm not really sure what the problem might be, but you're right about learning about each other. That's maybe the best you can do. He maybe has a strong fetish for something.
Ask him what he wants, what turns him on, what he wants you to do.
To make it fun, you can "submit" to him. Role-play, be his slave or something. If he still doesn't respond, try the opposite. Be dominating.
Different strokes for different folks.
In my experience, beer will make you a little number and can last longer, but weed often amplifies sensation, though might make him a bit paranoid or stressed about having sex (forgive the irony). It might make him very at easy if you smoke together. Huge turn-on, I have been told, is smoking a fatty while your girl is going down on you. Maybe give him a drink, a joint, have him sit back, and take control.
Best of luck.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (25 March 2010):
He may not be relaxed, or it's more likely that the weed is preventing him from climaxing. Whatever it is, it's not you.
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reader, TimmD  +, writes (25 March 2010):
 Some guys just don't like having their balls touched or played with. I wouldn't think that is too abnormal. Not being able to cum? That's a little odd. Especially in a brand new relationship like this. Sounds like he has some kind of issue either medically or psychologically. Even if you're not exactly the best in bed, he should still be cumming just from the excitement of a new girl and a new relationship.
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