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I have some questions about sex for the first time.

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Question - (2 September 2008) 5 Answers - (Newest, 3 September 2008)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

hello i'm 17 teen right know and i was talking to my mother about sex cuz i was inrested and i was just wondering if it really hurts the first time? and if you can really bleed? i didnt want to belive my mom a whole lot cuz i was just thinking she was scaring me so i wont have sex before i'm married can some one help?

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A female reader, Aunty Em United Kingdom +, writes (3 September 2008):

Aunty Em agony auntYep, a lot of different accounts here! Of which, I believe all to be true. But sometimes, I just wonder how some girls can just feel a 'little pinch' as Ah-ha puts it. My first time was very painful, as my partner is very well equipped down there. We couldn't do it 'fully' in the end as it hurt so much and has continued to be 'piercing' each time we do it. Hopefully, that will go away as I adapt to his equip!

No need to scare, but my best friend said her first time felt like she was 'dying'! But she got over it. Lol!

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A female reader, Ah-ha United Kingdom +, writes (2 September 2008):

I'd say a little pinch...Nothing to worry about at all. :)

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A female reader, PsyCookie United States +, writes (2 September 2008):

PsyCookie agony auntYes, what :):):) said is true. Every girl's first time is different for each one.

To me, it really didn't hurt, but I know a lot of girls whos first time hurt a lot and to others who describe their pain as a litte pinch.

If you're afraid it might hurt, a good thing to lessen the pain is to do a lot of foreplay. If you and your guy are both first timers (like me and my boyfriend were), then you might just pass this up and forget about it! If your boyfriend is experinced, he will most likely do the foreplay to you.

But don't worry, the first of couple of times you might feel uncomfortable/pain with the feeling or not have a lot of pleasure because your body is adjusting to the object being inside of you but believe me, with practice, you will end up loving it.

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A female reader, :):):) United Kingdom +, writes (2 September 2008):

Thats great that you can talk to your mother openly about these things.

Everyones first time is different so I cant give you an exact account. It can be a little bit painful and uncomfortable the first time, some girls do bleed a little also.

Think about it this way, if it was that painful, no-one would have sex and the human race would cease to exist lol.

But yes, waiting for the right person is important to make your first time special xxx

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A female reader, SugarCookie United States +, writes (2 September 2008):

Yes the first time does hurt especially if he is a bigger guy down there. My boyfriend is 8 1/2 inches and after having sex with him for 3 1/2 years its still a little uncomfortable when he first goes in because I have to stretch to fit him, but the pain goes a way pretty fast.

You can bleed the first time if you still have your hymen. If you have ever woren a tampon you dont have that. There are a lot of ways to lose you hymen though. Horse back riding falling funny ect....

At 17 if you are still a virgin then I dont think I have to say this but I will. Sex is best when two people love eachother and want to spend the rest of their lives together. I think you know that though.

Also one more thing have safe sex when the time comes.

I hope I helped.

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