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writes:Okay..So.. About a month ago i ahd the implant. My periods are Screwed up and im so much nastier. I love my mum to bits and i must admit shes my best friend. But Since ive Started Bein 'nasty' we fall out all the time. she says im nasty and i have a go at her. like im the parent and shes the child. i get annoyed at the slightest thing.. cry or go mad .. it will be a coin toss. and i feel sorry for the person on the reciving end to be quite honest.For e.g today.. i wasnt well i had period pains and we were food shopping and we came home i went in the bath.. my mum had my nephew and so she didnt put the shopping away. yet i put it away anyway when we go shopping.i feel taken for granted. My mum says i do nothing round the house. when i quite obviusly do. i was off skwl ill one day this week and i did 2 loads of washing put them on the line and cleaned the carpet. Which she said she was going to do last week when she was off work.im not sure if its my hormones or i just feel taken for granted at the minute. Please help me. I'm Swinging From One extream to the other. im cryin and going mad..What do i do. i dont want to fall out with my mum as i love her to bits but i do want some advise on what i should do.Thanx xx
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reader, pashanoodle  +, writes (8 June 2008):
 I think that the implant is probably messing with your hormones/and therefore your emotional state/mood, you're at the age where hormones wreak havoc on your mind and body, and that implabt is probably exacerbating everything!However,I also think part of the 'problem' might be your age/stage of development in general. It is VERY common for young people your age (adolescent is the word commonly used) to have significant disharmony with their parents, whether it is intentional or not! You have probably heard all the "oh my god, teenagers" comments?? Well, you are at a stage of life that is incredibly complex - you are developing both physically and intellectually, and changing from the "child" you previously were....you feel like an adult and yet you're not, but you're not a kid either. It's frustrating! You are probably starting to assert yourself and state your own opinions on lots of issues alot more, as well as seeking more independence from your mum/family ...which is VERY VERY normal. This can be quite a scary time for parents too - they have been used to dealing with you as their dependent child, having full control over what you do etc,...so to suddenly find that challenged (even in a loving way) can be disconcerting...they have to work out a whole new way to communicate with and deal with their "teenager". And, for many teens "talking" to the oldies is not a big priority...The other issue that often arises around this age is all that "self image stuff" - you may feel like you don;t quite know where you "fit" anymore...like noone really "gets" you at home now...that sort of stuff?? You may have issues going on you are embarrassed to discuss with your mum/dad...maybe you don;t like yourself that much at the moment?? That can lead to unhappiness and "tension" too...It sounds like you're a lovely, sensible and caring teen who is going through alot....my first bit of advice is to talk with your mum, tell her how much you love and care about her and that you only want to feel close to her. Tell her how much your moods are "swinging" at the moment - give her the chance to understand that you're not intentionally being "awful"...next, get some strategies in place for when you feel yourself getting annoyed/sad....for example you may go to your room for half an hour and listen to your music...so you have time to calm down and therefore are less likely to blow up and argue with someone...expain what you're doing to your mum...next...sit down with your mum and ask what she needs from you to show that you are contributing to the household...get her to identify some specific "chores" she'd lie you to do...(ideally you should negotiate these together)....if you are both clear on what you have responsibility for and you DO that stuff....it will be less "abstract" and she won;t be able to say you don;t help...which means you wont feel unappreciated /taken for granted!! That's all "simple" stuff - but you'd be surprised how little strategies like this can help! If your emotions are still all over the place in a month or two - you should think about visiting your DR...maybe that implabt isn;t the right thing for you...I hope this makes sense and that it helps....good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2008): IM 15 XX
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reader, MissKin +, writes (7 June 2008):
 How old are you? is this your proper age? To be honest, if you're still this young you shouldn't have had the implant. I disagree with it. it messes with your hormones too much and at your age your hormones are already screwing around, all on their own.
But you've only had the implant for a month. it takes three or four months to work itself into your system and for your body to adjust to the boost of hormones, so yes this could account for your emotional instability.
talk to your mum. tell her how you feel.
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