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writes:HiI am 16, almost 17, and unlike all my friends and apparently everyone else, I have not had much experience with guys as no one ever seems to have shown any interest in me in the past. I do not mean sexual experience, what I am worried about is just experience of being around a guy. There is a boy who I like and he likes me but I have no idea how to act if we ever went on a "date" just me and him. What would I say? How do you like end up holding hands or anything? Just what in general do you do? I am quite a loud confident person so I won't be shy exactly, I'll just feel very out of my depth.please help as I am getting quite anxious and worried...thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 December 2008): guys tend to like the log term relationships if the girl is lets say "untouched" i know a girl she realy liked a boy and as she had a track record for being a bit of a slut he "promised" her he would stand by her if they were to have sex and she was silly enough to belive him they did have sex and the next day he ignored her.he has called her countless names even questions why he "shagged" her. the point of the storie is that guys like the nice girls who respect theselves. as for you not knowing what to do with your petential lover.ask your freinds about it they will help you a lot trust me.xxxxxx
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reader, Lauren.. +, writes (18 December 2008):
 I think a lot of people are worried about this right now, so dont worry you are not alone. The whole point of a date, is to see whether or not there is something there between you two. Usually, the start of the date can be awkward, esspecially if it is the first date, but dont be disheartened by this because both people usuall losen up as time goes on. The conversation can literally be about anything, and you talk how you would normally with any other person, i know its harder than it sounds. Just ask him the general questions about his day, and then maybe find common ground to talk about, like things you both like or dislike. It will get easier from there onwards.Holding hands and things like that, usually just happen out of the blue. Its hard to explain it, but if you are both comfortable with each other, than it just happens, and sometimes its hard to notice. If you dont hold hands, thats ok too because every time is different.Maybe go to the cinema because that way, if the conversation runs a little dry, you can watch the film, and then afterwards, you can make conversation about the film. You are still on a one-on-one basis so it is still a date.Dont worry that you havent has as much experience with guys as your friends, because often they exaggerate to make themselves seem more experienced than they are. Being inexperienced at 16 is not a bad thing at all so dont worry, just make sure that the experiences you have with guys are right for you at the time.Good Luck and Please dont worry so much.You will be fine (:
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2008): thanks... great advice :)
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reader, misssassy +, writes (18 December 2008):
this boy likes you for who you are so when you go on a date dont try and be some one your not cause boys can see staright through that. like you said you are usaly a loud person and confident so you wont have anything to worry about. just try not to be in your face loud has that can make scare them away abit. just talk about things you both like and enjoy doing. also talk about your friends but make shore its not all me me me usally once you start on one topic then the next just keep flowing.
with regards to holding hands that will just happen seerously you have nothing to worry about.
hope this helps
good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 December 2008): Thats great that there a boy u like and he likes u :) Dont worry about not having experience, life is about learning and experiencing new things as they come and learning from it. Just be yourself, dont try to be no one else but you, when you do go on a date with him. When talking on date, just find out somethings about him such as, what he likes doing in his free time, what is he studying, does he have brothers and sisters, just general things nothing too personal. I dont think there is a right way of doing things on a date, just let things come naturally in their own pace. Once you feel comfortable enough around each other, try to hold his hands or he might just hold your hands first. But dont focus so much on the holding hands so much, just have fun being around each other when going out. And since you say you are confident, it shouldn't be too hard - so just have fun! Hope this help a bit!
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reader, samsmommy  +, writes (18 December 2008):
 Often your friends don't have as much experience with guys as they'd like you to think. So don't be concerned that your friends have dated and you haven't. Everyone is nervous on their first date, so if you guys do go on a date, just act like you usually do, talk about the things that you usually talk about. As for holding hands, it usually just happens, it's not all awkward or anything, so don't even worry about that. And like you said, you're not shy, so it's not like the date will be boring or anything. Good Luck!
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