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writes:I have just finished a relationship where my ex b/f and I broke up due to someone saying he didn't want to be with me anymore. He said he thought it was best but denied ever saying he wanted this. After a good bit of time, nearly two months he acted more like we were still together and when I finally left he kissed me that morning goodbye. The following night I showed up at the same hangout all dressed up, fit to kill. I was told later that night that he was looking and making comments about how good I looked and it seemed to be bothering him a lot. Especially since my last ex fiancé showed up the same night. The ex bf was looking me over like he could have eaten me up *LOL* and made the comment to me. D*** you sure do look pretty with a big grin on his face. He is always looking at me and can't stand seeing me dance with anyone. He closes his eyes or looks away. He still seems to bide for my attention until he gets it. Making me notice him! He thinks he is in love with his ex girlfriend but I have actually caught him starring at me while sitting with her. He does say that he loves me for more than just a friend but he isn't in love with me. He denies he ever said it even. By the way the persons telling me what he is doing and saying is his best friend and closest other friends. What do you honestly think?
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (3 October 2007):
Blue_Angel0316 is verified as being by the original poster of the question Thanks for the input folks! Trust me I am reading and listening. The old heart however wants to stay for a bit longer which I know could be tricky. At any rate I am dining out with friends, spending time with my grandchildren, singing up a storm and doing anything else I can to basically avoid him. I am nice however when he speaks to me in person of if he calls but not over zealous where he can see nor hear in my voice. I am trying to let go here. It's just a hard thing to do. Thanks again.
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reader, drastic knowledge +, writes (3 October 2007):
 he wants you but then again doesnt want you
what i mean is he doesnt want to have ties to you but doesnt want you to be with any one eles kinda of like an confussed player
but what you need to do is move on and stop worrying about your ex and have a good time with out him show him that he cant have you and leave you too
i wish you the best but i do think you need to stop wondering what he thinks of you
like the saying goes how can you leave me and still tell me you love me
so kick that trashy man out your life you can do way better
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reader, HeartBreakED +, writes (3 October 2007):
 I agree with the last post there. Even if he is not intentionally playing you, he IS absolutely confused about what he really wants. My advice to him is that he take some time away from relationships and reacquaint himself with himself. As for you, you really don't want to be mixed up with someone who is romantically confused TRUST ME on that. It's the most intense roller coaster ride on earth but it never reeeeaaaalllyyyyyy goes up. It goes up the DOOOOOOWN then a little bit more up, then DOOOOOOOOOWN again and so on and so forth. Maybe you should take some time for yourself too. Kick back and have some fun.
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reader, lmd  +, writes (3 October 2007):
I agree with RCN. This boy is not worth the drama. He only wants you sometimes? That is definately not fair to you. It's time to move on.
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reader, Blue_Angel0316 +, writes (3 October 2007):
Blue_Angel0316 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your reply male reader. The story is a bit complicated. We have actually been seeing one another for nearly two years. Off and on..then finally we moved in together after we broke up once last year..My idea to give him his freedom. He briefly dated someone else then told her he was in love with me. I moved in with him about two weeks after their relationship ended. He was very loving and kind to me . We got along really well. This went on for about 5 months then things started happening. Yes I believe he is very confused. By the way I got a call from him tonight. And we haven't been sleeping together for a good while now. He hasn't even attempted to try to get me to either. And he shows me respect. Treating me with kindess and that of a close friend. Maybe even that of a best friend.
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reader, rcn +, writes (3 October 2007):
 Your boyfriend, exboyfriend, boyfriend, exboyfriend, is very very confused. This sounds like what is called "looser"!!!! I'm sorry but I think he's paying you, and I think he's playing his ex too. These guys tell you just what you want to hear to get you in the sack, then after they get what they want, off to the next victim without caring at all about how their actions affect you. Take yourself out of the equation and find someone who is going to treat you the way you deserve to be treated.
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