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writes:The Situation: I found my friend from about 5-7 years ago. We were talking but nothing serious just catching up but i somehow caught feelings for him.(When i found him i was in washington and he is in new mexico) I am now in new mexico and we hung out only twice but when were with each other its not awkward but just mostly quiet and we dont really talk to each other. Although he is now engaged i dont know what to do. But after that ended i started talking to this guy. hes really nice and what i have been looking for but when i looked at the picture of my friend i got feelings again but he has no idea. im not sure what i should do because i dont want to hurt the new guy and i def. dont want to be a homewrecker.
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reader, philip@u +, writes (14 July 2010):
i wouldn't say he is off limits until she's walking down an the ile in a white dress.
I would see if he does have any feelings for you before walking away.
is he bi/straight
but i wouldn't say anything to the new guy about how you still have feelings for the other guy.
go and ask him if he likes guys? bi/straight?
tell him you might have a crush on him.
and that you care for him.
what is it really going to hurt.
if you really do care for him then you have to
find out. because your happyness matters too lol
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reader, xanthic +, writes (12 July 2010):
 http://www.dearcupid.org/question/what-to-do-when-the-person-youre-attracted.html
He's engaged, and unavailable. Move on.
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reader, der_zyniker +, writes (12 July 2010):
I think that you are hoping that he's gay. After I told my friend that I loved him. He told me that he was straight and for the longest time I just hoped that he was gay and that he just wasn't ready to tell me.... but guess what. He's straight and nothing will ever change that. The best thing that you can do is to move on. I know that it's easier said then done, but it's what is best for you and this other guy is interested in you. Go for the sure thing.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 July 2010): If your not sure how he feel or what his thought inside his head, just get some sign from him. For example, what's his interest, past relationship etc. It shoulld gave you some clue, get it a try.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah you are right.
But i dont know if he is honestly i mean to be truthful you cant really tell these days and time.
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reader, AvgGuy1 +, writes (10 July 2010):
 Is your friend straight? It sounds as though he is - since he's engaged - and has no idea you like him.I know it's hard to do... but I think you need to move on the guy#2, especially if he's mutually interested in you. Guy #1 is getting married... so that should basically tell you that he's off limits (so to speak).Right?
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reader, AvgGuy1 +, writes (9 July 2010):
Is your friend straight? It sounds as though he is - since he's engaged - and has no idea you like him.
I know it's hard to do... but I think you need to move on the guy#2, especially if he's mutually interested in you. Guy #1 is getting married... so that should basically tell you that he's off limits (so to speak).
Right?
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