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*aja1976
writes:hi.. i am a teacher who teache to 11th and 12th std studets. one of my students is intrested in me for friendship. she didnt expressed it but her body langue suggests that she is intrested in me. she is just 16years of and i am 34 years of age. my body thinks let her approach me but my mind says its not fair. i am getting confused and i dont know wht to do. What can i do? any suggetion here????
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (6 December 2010):
 @anon male reader : don't keep your mind so open that all common sense flies out of it.
Regardless of her age, this guy could quite possibly loose his job.
And Indian parents are notoriously less politically correct than American or European ones. I am not saying their authomatic reaction would be to have the guy beaten to a pulp, but I don't feel we can exclude this possibility.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 December 2010): typical female response.... no noooo dont do it!! and zero empathy, even mocking you in the case of Tisha
dont listen to them
my advice as open minded male is if you like the girl, flirt a little,suggest a date out of school and see her reaction.
check about local consent laws, because there are places where 16 is LEGALLY ready to consent.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 December 2010): There is no reason to be confused.
Whether you have feelings for any student under your care is irrelevant. The laws states you cannot touch them. In any way.
Grit your teeth, suck it up and go home to your wife, and slap yourself for even CONSIDERING acting any such feelings.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (1 December 2010):
 You've been looking online for female "friendship" as well, based on this post. http://www.dearcupid.org/question/im-married-but-i-want-a-female-phone.html
The best advice I have for you is to seek help for your marriage, read your employment contract carefully to see what happens if you try to get involved with a student, review the vows you made when you got married, consider how you'd feel if your daughter was being taught by a guy like yourself.
You're a bit young to be having a mid-life crisis, but I guess it could happen. See your doctor to make sure you don't have some sort of brain tumor or other medical condition that is making you decide to try things that will ruin your life as well as life for those around you.
Look to your marriage first, decide if perhaps you should let your wife out of the marriage, so she can find a husband who will actually be faithful to her. I'm sure she'd lose all respect for you if she knew you were thinking of having some sort of affair with a student, not to mention the phone affair you'd like to have with a stranger. It's a bit pathetic, really, perhaps she'd just feel sorry for you. Who knows?
Anyway, stay away from the student, perhaps it's time for you to change careers if you cannot control your body.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 December 2010): You're supposed to be the adult here. You should know better. You obviously know it's wrong otherwise you wouldn't be asking. If you're looking for approval i suggest you look elsewhere.
This girl is basically a child. I suggest you stay as far away from her as possible. You are employed to teach your students not hit on them. If you can't be a responsible adult i suggest you change career.
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reader, raja1976 +, writes (1 December 2010):
raja1976 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthanks all of u
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (1 December 2010):
 How are you confused? You're a teacher not to mention an adult that teaches these students. In your position of power, you are not to engage in a relationship with this student.. Parents, admin, and these students trust you with their lives each day, ensuring they're in safe hands and getting the education they seek. If you make this relationship more than student-teacher then you will get fired, stripped of your teaching license, have to register as a sex offender, and potentially serve time in jail. Stay away from her, see she can move to a different class, and maybe quit being a teacher because I don't feel you are cut out to be a teacher. You're not acting professional. If you quit then you can have a relationship with her.
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reader, Adorskable  +, writes (1 December 2010):
 Stay away from her because she is a student. This is the best solution to your problem.
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