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writes:I graduated high school this year and am off to university. I have developed a close friendship with a teacher eight years my senior who is single and now that I am no longer his pupil, I would like to pursue a romantic relationship with him. Can anyone who has done this or anyone for that matter give me advice as to how I should approach him? We e-mail each other occasionally for now and we are on a "friends" basis (we call each other by our first names)...Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2007): Uncle Trev, if you know of four such relationships that have been successful, can you please give some details...who made the first move, how, and when was the most recent one? Was the first move made a few months after she left school or a few years? Thanks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2007): Hello, this is the girl who posed the question. To answer Uncle Trev's inquiry, I am heading off to university but it is about an hour away from said teacher, so it is close enough to still stay in touch with him.
What do you think about this: I wait a couple of months, say until late fall, and then I go visit him and try and ask him out to lunch to tell him about college?
I figured this is vague enough to be taken in a friendly manner or could be taken further if so desired...what do you all think?
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reader, Uncle Trev +, writes (7 August 2007):
I know of four relationships that have happened just like this over the past twenty - twenty five years and all four couples are still together and very happy today. Compare that to the national divorce statistics then.Firstly please be assured that there is nothing wrong legally or marally with this potential relationship.The only quarm I have here is that you say you are off to university. Will this mean that you are away from the area for long periods of time? and Will this cause difficulties within your social circles when you are away from each other?To pursue, maybe ask him out for a drink, or invite him around for a meal or just go out somewhere for a drive or a picnic or something like that. Spend time together and see what develops.
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reader, Skeez +, writes (7 August 2007):
 Talk to him hun..
as hlskitten says...your not his pupil anymore.
See how it goes first. offer to go out for dinner or a movie or go to a pub or his house. Get to know each other more first and maybe youll both end up liking each other enough to start a relationship.
Goodluck sweety xxxx
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (7 August 2007):
 Hi
At the end of the day, you're not his pupil anymore so what you both do is your own business.
When i was at school i remember our art teacher struck up a relationship with an ex sixth former, and as far as i know they stayed together.
See how it goes!
C xxx
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