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writes:There's a guy who I worked with for 6 yrs., and I never really liked being around him because he would throw fits and get mad for no reason, and start throwing things and punching things at work which the boss did nothing b/c he is afraid of him. He is a huge guy..well, we worked together for so long that we talked everyday and were I guess you could say friends, although I still felt uncomfortable around him b/c I never knew when he'd blow up. He did like me but I was always in a relationship. He would find ways to touch the women that he worked with and no one said anything b/c they didn't want to make him mad. He also would make rude comments when I got pregnant, he'd say that if I can't lift heavy things that I shouldn't work anymore, and that if he came in to work with a broken leg, people would look at him like he's an idiot. Well, he also said on a few occasions that he was going to punch me in the pregnant belly, and he said one time he would rape me behind the garbage dump. I quit working there 8 mo. ago, and he just started calling me every few minutes the other day, I didn't answer b/c I don't like him and the way he treated me. he left a couple messages saying to please call him b/c he wants to talk to me. I haven't called. my friend who still works there said that he started dating an 18 year old girl that works there, and he is 36 so when her mom and dad found out they got mad and won't let her talk to him. She quit working there b/c of it, and now he is really depressed, got on anti-depressants, and lost 50 pounds..he may just want to talk, probably to rub it in that he dated her not that I care, but why would he even think it appropriate to call me, when I haven't talked to him in 9 months, he knows Im married now with a baby and another on the way. It doesn't make sense to me. Should I keep ignoring his calls?
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reader, missmel34  +, writes (14 December 2007):
 Ahhhhhh baby duck, you took the word right out of my mouth. Sociopath! Absolutely.
Please don't think that talking to this man will make him go away, ignore him, change your number if need be.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (13 December 2007):
 This guy is dangerous. Start documenting his phone call attempts. If he should try to contact you by showing up at your door, call the police. Then get a restraining order. For now, just continue ignoring him. It's not rude, it's self-preservation. This is not normal behavior. Take good care of yourself and trust your instincts, always. You were absolutely right here, don't second-guess your own common sense.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2007): From what you've said, the answer is yes - ignore him. You USED to work with him. You don't any more. You dislike him. He's violent. He's threatening. He sexually harasses women. How many more reasons do you need?
Pretend you've got a new mobile phone, change your home phone number and ignore him totally.
Phil
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reader, Fairy_Lu  +, writes (13 December 2007):
 Dont answer your phone any guy who says he wants to rape you and punch your belly while your pregnant is dangerous and messed in the head i wouldnt answer my phone in fact i would change my number or get your hubby to answer and tell him to tell the creepy crazy guy to leave you alone, dont stress about this situation the guy is obviously messed up and needs proffessional help
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reader, Serinity +, writes (13 December 2007):
 Absolutely keep ingoring his calls. From what it sounds like, this guy is not worth getting involved with. Even if it's just for friendship or to have someone to talk to. Your married with a child, what is there to second guess about? Not only is he short tempered, rude and obvioulsy unstable, but he's an ex co-worker. If you call him back even just to see what he wants, your opening a door that may be hard, if not impossible to close. You don't need that chaos in your life, nor does your husband or child. If he needs someone to talk to he can confide in one of his buddies or even a psychiatrist for that matter. If he continues to call I would have your husband call him and politely tell him to stop calling you. Nothing good can possibly come out of this dear. Don't feel like you're being rude by ignoring his calls. Was he worried about being rude when he said those repulsive comments to you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2007): seems like he has a lot of issues that arent your problem. Safety first, for you and your family, he seems dangerous.
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