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writes:I have this friend thats a girl. Im starting to really like her because we have so much in common. We went skiing for the day together and had a great time. She also planned to go somewhere for my bday after she gets out of work. Is it possible that she may have feelings for me or is it just friendship? Reply to this Question
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reader, missmel34  +, writes (14 December 2007):
 Body language!!!!!!
Watch her body language around, if shes into you she will repeat your actions. So, if you are sitting a certain way she will mirror you, if you have a hand gesture she will mirror that.
Its hard to make the first move, especially when you have a good friendship, because you don't want to damage that friendship.
I suggest that if you're seeing her mirror behaviour, then try some contact. A good one is reaching over and brushing her hair lightly from her face, the idea is to enter into her personal space and see how she reacts. Now if she moves quickly to bring herself back to regain her space...then that was a definite "no..not interested". But if she smiles back at you, then thats a good sign.
Another thing you can do to enter into her space is putting your hand on her back, guiding her. If you think about it, theres lots of things to show intimacy without being to upfront.
Unfortunately, when it comes down to it though. A first kiss is the only real evidence that she sees you as more than a mate. Sometimes you just have to take a leap of faith on that one.
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reader, Samutsen  +, writes (13 December 2007):
 It is possible she has feelings for you. Test her. For example, talk about you and her as us, and see whether she repeats the same pronoun
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reader, ebailey87  +, writes (13 December 2007):
I think you need a little more information to know for sure whether it's friendship or has potential for more. It sounds as if you're on the right track, though. It seems as if she enjoys your company, which is always a good place to start.
Continue going out together--plan another ski trip or go see a concert. If she sounds happy whenever you call (you know how you can hear a smile in people's voices?), if she smiles a lot when you to are together, and if she sits close to you and leans slightly toward you, there's a chance she feels there's chemistry in addition to her friendly feelings for you.
My advice would be to keep doing what you've been doing. If you get more positive reactions from her, maybe bring up the idea of dating. A couple of thoughtful gestures from you and spending some more time together might do wonders for letting her know you're interested.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 December 2007): it's possible that she might like you
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