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writes:I have a problem with my boyfriend watching porn. I just get really jealous. Is this normal or am I just being paranoid???? Should I just let him watch it???
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 March 2008): Jealous in that you want his attention directed to your body? You need to talk to him. From what I've heard, when a guy is missing something, be it intimacy or sex, the first step is to watch porn. It also seems to be a male macho thing thing to.
Also, when he watches porn, how does it make you feel. Knowing this might reveal a need you have that he isn't providing, just as he has a need your not providing.
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reader, asian tealeaf  +, writes (31 March 2008):
 welcome to the club dear.. my man watches porn and when i see the stuff he watches....creepy. my skin crawls becauseI HATE and refuse to do anal sex and his porn is, fisting, dbl penetration. it disgusted me so istarted watching porn. I watch..Gay porn. it made him upset i told him to go fuck himself basically. i get wet and get offf of gay porn. he gets off of degrading women.. even trade off in my books. men will sooner lie to u then leave waqtching porn. their sneaky mpother fuckers who will watch porn, get off and then later on in the day fuck u while thinking of vicky vette, the hot blonde porn chic who gets gangbanged by several ugly guys... i doubt they ever think of us when they jerk off. in fact, i heard from several guy friends of mine, they love to jerk off while at work. makes u wonder where their mindset is. and surely, if their at work and dont have porn on their handsperson, im sure its not the wifey or missus at home their thinking about. its always another woman. someone without the stretchmarks and small tits and jiggly ass. some other chic with a tight ass and pussy, and a dirty dirty girl who takes it everyway. men view us as frigid dumb bitches who dont understand why they need porn. but the real question at hand here is not that. its why do they not have a life besides porn, porn, and more dirty smut? why cant they grow up? sometimes i fantasize of chopping some guys dick off and shoving it in their tight anal cavity. just for kicks. im not deranged. im being for real. we women understand what life is all about, or foor the most part anyhow. and most of us certainly dont bring our dildos or pocket rockets to work hoping for a private moment to jerk off. its a losing battle dear. men will NEVER change, and again, would sooner lie to ur face like a bloody coward than discuss their porn. they covet porn like they covet air and food...oh wait, what was the saying my guy friend said to me? oh yea, men live to eat shit sleep work and fuck fuck fuck.men dont care about the in between. well, to be fair, most of them anyways. but the ratio of men who watch porn and lie about it is sadly higher than the good honest menfolk who either dont watch porn, or truly understand how it hurts their gf or wives and they stop. because they know the real thing is better anyways then a COLD PUSSY U CANT EVEN TOUCH OR LICK OR SMELL. AND ANYWAYS, ITS MORE FUN WHEN U HAVE A WARM BODY NEXT TO U. IN MY OPINON, though, at times i wish it was a warm knocked out coldguys body. because id sinfully violate it til there was nothing left. sorry, im having a horrible day. im depressed and sad. perhaps i sound a lttle uh, crazy. but when i read ur article it made me enraged, and i had to say something in ur defense. truth be told, not all guys are pigs, but with one arm embracing u, they have the other tightly gripping their cock while one eye peeps over ur shoulder, unbeknownst to u, and jerks their dick off. they fuck u and visualize vicky vette. they see ur sagging tits and close their eyes and think of a hot ex or porn star. u need to get into the minds of men. its one big porn creampie anal fistfucking gangbanging gallery. not much room left for anything else.
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reader, GeorgiaGirl84  +, writes (30 March 2008):
 I use to be the same exact way, but managed to get over it. I felt insecure about it and I didn't want him thinking of anyone in a sexual manner. Then I realized it was a double standard because I drooled over Colin Farell and imagined doing dirty things to him... We managed to compromise. We can pick one out together and sit down and watch it. Kind of makes things more interesting in the bedroom.
Guys are more visual creatures. They're gonna look at it whether we like it or not. If you tell your man not to do something, he'll just go behind your back and do it. I think it's better for everyone to just be up front and honest about the way they feel.
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reader, iHaveSum12Love +, writes (30 March 2008):
Well... I can tell you it is 100% normal to be jealous about it. It almost feels like he's cheating on you, correct? My boyfriend does the same thing, but i try to just ignore it because i know he just does it when he's turned on and/or trying to masturbate. I try to not let it bother me because i know he is not actually doing things with anyone else. I know it sucks, but lets face it- men like sex, and sex turns them on.
As for stopping him from watching it... can you really do that? It seems like its like telling him what to do- being a little bit controlling? Personally, i would just let him know that it bothers you, and that you would PREFER that he refrain from doing it and just leave it at that.
Good luck!
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