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*osygirls92
writes:Here's background knowledge:I've known this boy for several years, though i''ve only met him a few times. He's an ex of the dear friend i'm going to talk about. However, he went out twice with her before he quit it, saying that exams were far more important. I comfort my friend telling her that he's a horrible user that only wanted her for having a gf. And hadn't spoken to him since whilst my friend reconciled and started to b friends again.Now...Just yesterday, I went with a dear friend and a friend's friend to a uni open day and just bumped into him. I invited him into my car as we all just happened to need to go to the city. So there we were, the four of us having a laugh and fun. We finish eating and I need to go refill the parking meter as the hours almost up. However, being horrible with direction I simply cannot remember where I parked it. I ask my friend to come with me but she doesn't want to. Instead, the boy volunteers, which really nice of him. So we go. I'm wearing this high heels which are absolutely killing my feet and he offers to 'carry me'. Of course I refuse. Then we sit down and then he asks what I like to do. I reply 'karaoke' with glee. But his face falls and he recounts a story of an ex and his past depressing experiences of karaoke. I don't take much notice of it since I'm far too concerned with my feet. We head back and find that my two friends have finished and have gone out to look for us. It isn't until he puts his arm around me to stop me tripping over everything that I actually start realising that I might have an interest in him. The day wears on and we constantly joke and play and he follows me around. When I need to go, I realise that I have no idea how to get home from the place. The boy volunteers to direct me as he's familiar with the district, tho he lives on the opposite side of the city. I joke but ultimately refuse again. I then get home and ponder over my feelings, realising that he isn't as bad as I had originally thought. But I have a major problem, he's my best friend's ex. The question:I love my friends and family and don't want to hurt anybody. I've talked to it with my mother. She said that' I should stay far away' without hesitation. I agree, by the same token, if I did happen to get together with him, I would seriously hurt my friend's feelings. Even if I did ask before hand, she's an absolute angel and would pretend that it didn't matter all the while, it would still hurt. So I'm asking you guys, what would I do, if I seriously considered dating him. Thankyou! and sorry for having to make u read so much
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (28 January 2010):
Listen to your mother on this one. Your dear friend means more than this guy who had already proved he couldn't commit before.
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reader, Dinkie +, writes (28 January 2010):
over all its up to you ... but if you date him then you risk losing your friend so really you need to decide wats more important to you... your best friend or some boy you dont really know very well ??
it might be hard but the right thing to do is put your priorities in order....and if your friends not before the boy then thats a real shame
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