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writes:I don't know what I do wrong?I am 21 years old. I graduate with a Bachelors Degree in 3 mo. Live alone in a nice apartment. I work out about 3-4 times a week.I am handsome a leader and usually decently confident.I have NEVER cheated on any women.My issues are.I treat my women great. I feel like woman our goddesses their eyes, hair, legs, and just everything! I seriously feel like God made woman like Picasso and men we are just like FORD mass production (Flowers, dinner, movies, cook and listen)I have been told I could be romantic. But every time I try. It’s bad timing, if I light candles not now, or cook dinner then Thanks and whenever I have tried to be romantic in the bedroom. I start real good and then they want me F8#K them.But I feel I deserve not a pretty good girl but a awesome girl. The girl doesn't have to be perfect like I care the most about our relationship being a friendship.- I would like her to be pretty- Smart (I am very intelligent and hate being wrong and honestly it's a rarity but when a woman proves me dead wrong it's just plain old sexy! / yelling and debating are two different things)- Have her own mind (Think for herself) Even if she doesn't agree with me always. HAS to have.- Crazy in bed (Preference)- Want me to be there for her (HAS)- Want to be there for me (HAS)- Want me to do things she likes (Honestly I am crazy I would go rock climbing or watch a movie/ I hate heights and for the right women I would sky dive)(HAS)- Want to do things that I like (sports, man movies and video games, theme parks)(HAS)FINAL NOTE.I have dated a few girls which each have shown some of these qualities. But not one with a good balance.I have dated a cute, smart, wanted me to be there for her, want to be there for me, want me to do things she likes and I her do things that I like.But she didn't want to think for herself as time went on and she started to put me above her future priorities and at the time(Not anymore) I loved so much. I broke up with her because I wanted to be her not me. She found a new guy and now he thinks for her. But I am happy because I want a girl to love and rape me not love me or rape me because I tell her to.Another girl.I dated was a bomb shell, smart A++, wanted me to be there for her, want me to do things she likes.This girl was appearance wise perfect but beautify isn't EVERYTHING she didn't want to be there for me. And she appreciates me enough so I dumped her.Most other girls I start to talk to always are leaving!- Marriage- Out of state= New Boyfriend- ?When I am single there gone. And when I am taken their talking me!When I try, I FAIL. It's like God is laughing at my plans and ideas.But when I give up and truly quit thinking about women or any women being for me. BOOM there she is.
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reader, dc.ryan  +, writes (28 November 2009):
 Howdy,
I don't feel that every couple is a perfect match, nor will you find someone who is perfect - everyone has their "faults" and even in the most admirable of people, you'll eventually find something you hate.
However, when you are in an established relationship - it is the stuff you hate, that you learn to love and brings out qualities in yourself that you never realised existed and *that* is what makes a relationship tick.
You are there to satisfy each other, you could be missing out on women who are amazing - just because they didn't fit your criteria.. loosen up a little, and I'm sure the pieces will come together and you'll find someone who matters to you, not someone who ticks the right boxes.
Good luck and keep an open mind :)
Ryan
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2009): A possible reason they don't appear so readily when you're trying is because when you try, you put them on pedestals, above you.You ARE NOT like a mass produced car.
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reader, mr motivator +, writes (28 November 2009):
It seems like your dressing yourself up for a dressing down, every man and every woman gets the urge to be romantic every once in a while, and every once in a while every man and every woman want to be damn right straight forward and functional (in more ways than 1)
Your obviously feeling in a depressed sombre mood right now, youll snap out of it when you get a partner
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2009): This seems to be a case of someone being really full of themselves. Think about that for some time and then try going for another woman.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (28 November 2009):
 o_O
Here is a tip, if you claim to be really intelligent, learn to spell and use the right words.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 November 2009): You sum up how it works for most of us.
Great that you have a list, but also remember that you are "only" 21. How much life experience do you have to know what you REALLY need in a few years down the line? Do you know yourself enough to know? And many times.. the right woman will give you things you didn't know you needed ;) When it feels right, it is right. So if you are happy, don't obsess about whats "perfect", perfect may come once you get to know her better. At first shot maybe you thought she was dumb, until you talk to her and she makes you realize things you never knew before.
Don't give up, just do what you said yourself: don't think about it and BOOM she'll be there to sweep you off your feet and make you fall head over heels.
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reader, DiamondGirlx +, writes (28 November 2009):
 OMG you sound like such the PERFECT guy,
most girls dream of a guy like you for ages and never have him turning up!
I suppose that maybe you might be wanting too much in a girl though maybe every girl can't tick all the boxes
Heck you might find a girl that does tick all the boxes but sounds like if you looking for that girl you'll have to search hard! and by the time you've searched and you can't find this perfect girl for you you'll most probably give up and settle for some other girl unless you like a challenge.
The thing is, everyone wants the perfect guy or girl but somehow its always too hard to find them :(
Anyways jus an opinion and i really do hope you find her dude :) D.Gx
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