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writes: Hey, this is a question for the girls (and guys, whatever)does size really matter?andIs there such a thing as too big or too small?andWhat would you rather have: poor relationship, great sex or great relationship, poor sex? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2011): All healthy red-blooded normal men want to be the guy that she had great wild sex with. Period. End of story. A woman saying, "Sex with my new smaller guy isn't as exciting in that certain way, but the relationship is better" is not consolation. It's like overhearing your BF tell his friend, "I don't really feel quite so sexually attracted to my GF like I was with my ex. But the relationship is so much better because she doesn't spend all my money like my beautiful ex-GF did."
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reader, kirra07  +, writes (7 May 2011):
Yes, size definitely does matter. I notice the difference between the penis size and it makes a difference in how it feels. The sex is very different depending on the size (length and thickness). Certain size, shape, etc will hit different spots with different intensities (technique and skill do play a part, but sometimes it comes down to size). On the other hand, I have not broken up with anyone based on penis size before. My first bf's penis was smaller than average and I was with him for over 3 years. I'm not sure I can really choose either great relationship or great sex. They come as a package. Sex is important enough that it has to be included in the relationship. I would be happy with a great relationship outside the bedroom and an average sex life though.
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reader, iloveblue +, writes (7 May 2011):
 For me, great relationship gives me great sex..no matter if it is only kissing. However, on the issue on penis size,we don't really say it doesn't matter. But then, as a girl who had been to a lot of girl talks..it is just used to differentiate a guy from the others. He is average size, he is big etc. At the end of the conversation, the only thing that stands out is how he makes you feel as his lover/partner. I have never heard anyone say, our relationship is shitty but since he has big penis, i don't mind, I will stay. LOL No girl will say that. It is like, the penis is the big flat screen TV at home but the relationship is the whole house. What would you do with a big TV if your house has been poorly built and would crumble any minute?Therefore, yes a bigger size can make a difference but it will not be a tool to make a woman stay. And anyway, we should not equate good sex to big penis. It is not on the size but on how you use it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2011): Good relationships are what create the really good sex.Bad relationships often, hell almost always do, create the opposite, along with regret, shame, pain, fear, etc.Relationships based on sex don't last, without exception, from what I've seen in the last 30 years.However, before someone gangs up on me for saying that, because we've all heard the "God he/she was a lousy partner but the sex was terrific" line, you need to be aware of something.Most people who are doing that kind of talking really don't have any idea what really great sex is, they just think they do.You'd be surprised to find out how much of the talk and writing you see is just a huge pile of BS from the ignorant.Now, remember, all of us get older. You really want a good relationship if you are going to stay with someone through the thick and thin of life. Take for example a guy that I know, he's very well to do, he's only 47 years old, has a nice home, attractive female partner, and PROSTATE CANCER which means that his prostate was removed surgically last year, and he's got no testosterone due to the hormone suppressants they gave him. Just where do you suppose their sex life is right now? Yeah, his end is gone, other than performing oral, if he's willing, and if the sex was the basis of the relationship it would be over.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2011): Size matters. Some women like to get pounded, so they need a big one to get off. Get as big as you can... by exercise, diet, etc. If you want a woman to stay with you, your heart and mind won't be good enough... you're going to need a real tool to handle business. Some women would prefer a great relationship and poor sex, though why I dont know? Maybe because they like the emotional attachment. However I only find this in special cases, such as if men have a medical condition or a bad illness. Otherwise, if a man had only had sex once in his life, some, but not all, women would get up and leave, because the man was inexperienced and average. Plus, getting bigger will help your confidence man... you'll get any woman you want if you know your d*** is big so go for it. You're still young.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (7 May 2011):
 No, size does not matter. In fact, for more women than you'd think, you might as well be born without a penis, since they only climax through clitoral stimulation anyway.
Yes, there is something like too big. Maybe not so big to make sex impossible, but sure to make it uncomfortable and
obliging you to skip certain positions.
As for too small, just if you have a rare condition called micropenis.
As for the choice, I'd say it's purely hypothetical because in real life it's not so black and white , you can't so easily and totally separate the two things.
If the sex is poor, then it can't be defined such a great relationship, can it ?
And if the relationship is really poor, it would affect my
desire , after a while I could not have the hots anymore for someone who is mistreating me or humiliating me.
But, if I really HAD to choose : good relationship, bad sex. Like,in the case of a really great partner , who becomes impotent due to illness- I'd stay.
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reader, darkwind94  +, writes (7 May 2011):
 For girls, even if they say it doesn't matter, it really does. I mean, you don't have to be on Extenze or anything like that. Most of the time, if a girl really likes you, it won't matter to her. Also, if the girl happens to be a virgin, the bigger your thing, the more it will hurt her when you have sex with her.
And no, there isn't such thing as too big/small since when an erection comes, your thing would be 2-3 inches bigger.
I would prefer a great relationship, poor sex since I'm not the expert on sex, and I don't think my partner should be either, and I think we should connect emotionally which would make sex better, even if it's not great.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2011): I prefer large penis' to small ones. but it cant be ridiculously big. the biggest ive ever had is about 9 inches and i just about handled that. 10inch, i think would be to much, unless the guy knew how to use it. guys with smaller penis' tend to try harder making them very good, but sometimes, it is just too small. the smallest penis ive ever had is 3.5 inched. horendous sex.
what would i rather have. its a tough question. i love sex but i think i love a great boyfriend more, so there.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 May 2011): Size doesnt really matter, in my opinion and i know my friends would say the same, its all about your technique, what you do and how you do it.As for too big, well yes if it is really big it can be very painfull for the girl and it would be important too you lots and lots of lube. Really though, guys stress way too much about the size of their penis.As for the last part, well that varies, some people would say if they had poor sex in their relationship then they would have a poor relationship, it depends on what you define as key elements to a "good relationship" personally for me sex wouldnt be the most important part of a relationship I value honesty, trust and friendship as in having things in common, being able to talk, laugh and joke with eachother to be key elements to a "good relationship" sex is important in a relationship of course, but for me it should be the foundation for which a relationship should be built on.
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