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*1exander123
writes:Hi guys,I have a crush on this girl and we are quite close friends, she is 15 and i am 14, we've been going to places together etc. for a while now, but, i want to go out with her, although she already has a bf. What should i do?Ride it out and see if they break up?Try to break them up deviously? (im quite a devious person :D)If so, how i try to break them up?Is there another option im missing?Help is much appreciated guys!A1exander123
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 November 2009): its probbably the best way.
good luck and i hope it all works out for you.
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reader, shadowassassin +, writes (21 November 2009):
 Personally, i would wait it out but while still looking for someone special.the reason behind this is when you that age, 'love' as you call it, doesnt always last for ever. there will be litttle things that get in the way, and they might eventually move on, in which case she will need a shoulder to cry on. that is your cue.but... if they do last for even, you would of broken up the best thing in there lives. and she wouldnt of thanked you for it if you were devious about it.the other option you were requesting is to straight out tell her you like her.not in a creepy 'im going to stalk you' but just so she knows she has options.that is as devious as you should be.
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reader, A1exander123 +, writes (20 November 2009):
A1exander123 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe thing is, she hardly sees her current bf, so it's as if she's gonna break up with him, although maybe u guys are right, being devious isn't a good thing etc. and i'll just see what happens for now...
thanks all
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reader, pancakes rule  +, writes (20 November 2009):
 Don't do anything, it could ruin your friendship. Try to look at other girls, but if they break up, just be there for her, don't be too forward - it could look like that you're taking advantage of her when she's vulnerable and on the rebound. You'd have to wait until she is ready, but because you're so close as friends, that might be all that she'll ever see you as.
good luck
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reader, Accountable +, writes (20 November 2009):
 Being quite a devious person is, i will warn you, not an attractive quality. If your friend is happy with her boyfriend and you really care about her, why would you want to split them up? There will be other girls - the option you're missing is to move on and find another, single girl to pursue.
That may sound harsh, but you need to start recognising morals now; sometimes that means putting other peoples happiness before your own, and in this case that means respecting people's relationships. You wouldnt be too happy if you got with this girl and then another guy managed to break you two up, would you?
Good luck, I hope you find a single girl that you have this kind of connection with, and I'm sure you will :)
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