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writes:I Have Got This Creepy feeling this Teacher likes me more than usual. whether its just that I'm Friendly and because every teacher in the school knows me I am very sociable with them, but, he always smiles at me and if he sees me in the corridors he waits until I look at him and smile until he carries on walking. Not long ago he offered me a job as his "personal assistant" inputting data on a spreadsheet for him, i accepted and when offered money i did not accept it, anyway, whilst showing him how to do what he wanted me to do for him, he sat very close to me, and when the computer asked for his name, for registration purposes, he put in his full name, as if i wasn't a pupil and i knew him very well, this creeped me out... when I do see him in the corridor and i talk to him when he leaves he he always touches my shoulder and nearly hugs me but i think he then realizes he is a teacher and i am not.I hope you all can help me in this matter, I think I may be getting the wrong Idea from his body Language, but It will not effect my strong pupil teacher relationships, I will Just Try to be more Aware.Thankyou Love Joy xxx
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reader, teejaaay.  +, writes (7 June 2011):
Hey, yes. thats happened to me before. But i wasn't afraid of him because we both knew he was a teacher.. I just thought of myself as a teachers pet. I knew him well, we met 6 yrs ago, when i was in elementary. I know him and his family very well, we hang out a lot. I've helped him with work and stuff.. During the summer, i would help him with his class work, he offered me money, but he wouldnt let me deny. it was ok. We go out to dinner, its not really that bad. Yeah, sure, its embarassing..It is, i know. I hated going out with him, but didnt wanna be mean and say no!
hope things went well with you two! :)
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reader, creeped owt  +, writes (28 June 2010):
im from new zealand and i have had the same problem with a canidain teacher, he also comes off strong and is always trying to touch my shoulders. my friend is also freaking out because he keeps asking her about where she lives, and her family. do you reckon that this is weird? he also took us to the principal for calling him creepy this is a lie and we are scared of him. he makes inaproiate comments about our hair colour and race. he also waits when we walk past him and if we dont say hello or smile he gets angry and thinks we are making inaporpaite comments about him. he called one of our other friends a "wild" girl in a very unusual tone. help us if you have had this problem
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reader, lonewolf6294  +, writes (11 July 2009):
I had this thing too, except for that it was a female teacher. She would always lean over me and when she talked to me, she would pull on my shirt and breathes in my ear. Now im a female and it REALLY creep me out!! I couldnt tell anyone b/c she threatened to fail me. She would even pull me clore to her in the hallway. She made me miss the bus and asked to drop me off. I said hell naw! I got her fired. but she knows my cell. LAST WORDS: DO NOT TRUST HIM A L O N E!!
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reader, mysterious_blonde_lady +, writes (30 May 2009):
Yick, creepy. This sounds very VERY similar to a teacher who i have had contact with; it worries me that you are also from the UK and this is an ict teacher - as was mine. He behaved in a very similar way, it also worries me that you are 13-15 - underage, and noticing these things. You say you are not attracted to him, that's fine, much easier to deal with this if you are not.
Avoid him, move away if he comes too close, be friendly smile but be very clear about your bounderies if he does something you don't like make it clear. Move away, look at him in a funny way; anything that makes him feel uncomfortable and embarassed and discourages him from doing it again. Do not spend time alone with him. If his behaviour continues and it further worries you; look out for these warning signs;
Wanting to spend time alone with you
Staring at you
Touching you
Telling you secrets or promising to keep things secret foir you
Trying to befriend you
Telling you that he 'understands'
Talking about his life/private life
Knowing things about you that you've never told him.
It could be that this teacher is just being friendly; however teachers are not your friends, they are professional adults in a position of trust and you should not be feeling uncomfortable in their presence. If a teacher does something that makes you feel uncomfortable you should not ignore it. If they continue make it clear you do not like this behaviour or attention; if you do not it will continue and if this teacher has sinister motives then he will push things further.
I know you say that you do not fancy him; if you do and have said this to avoid people accusing you of being 'delusional'; i will say that fancying a teacher is very common and can be harmless under certain circumstances, it is not immature or deluded and is especially common in circumstances where a teacher is acting innappropriately. If you are flattered or appreciate the attentions of this teacher, don't, as the way you have described this teacher worries me greatly as he sounds very odd. If he is attracted to you, you WILL NOT be the only one. If he behaves this way with everyone; it still does not make it right, if you don't like it, don't put up with it, he should respect your bounderies.
Get your friends to watch his behaviour, see what they make of it.
Hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2008): To me, it just sounds like he is being friendly. I don't understand what you mean about the whole full name registration thing. If it asked for his name, why wouldn't he put it in?
But I am not actually there witnessing it, so he could be acting creepy towards you. If you really feel like he is treating you in a way you don't like, steer clear of him.
In my school teachers act like that all the time, very personable and friendly so it just doesn't sound odd to ME.
Best of luck!
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reader, LoveJoy +, writes (1 March 2008):
LoveJoy is verified as being by the original poster of the question Hi everyone,
Some of you are asking whether i fancy this guy, well the answer is NO.
I know that we are all different and i haven't recently seen this teacher behaving in such a way with any other pupils, but, i do still feel a bit unsure, I will Watch out over the next week or so and then write back to you all
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (29 February 2008):
 Trust your gut. Space yourself from him, and hopefully he might space himself from you. If that fails, I agree, talk to another adult about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 February 2008): Your instincts are telling you something isnt quite right and i think you should listen to them. Maybe you are overreacting, but there is a fine line between being friendly and being pervy. Tell a trusted adult, parent, or teacher how you feel. If the situation gets any worse, you need to let people know so they can help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 February 2008): Why dont you just have a word with another teacher and explain all of this to them. He is probably just trying to break the gap between teachers and mates, and it isnt working in this case because you feel uncomfortable and you think he is being creepy. I think he just wants to be friendly but he is maybe going about it in the wrong way. i could be wrong therefore you do need to Talk to a teacher that you get along with and tell all to them.
take care.
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (29 February 2008):
 I'm sure he doesn't mean anything by this, he's just a friendly guy. But it never hurts for you try to always be aware and not just of him but of all guys. You don't happen to have a school girl's crush on the guy do you? There seems to be a awful lot of girls you age in Great Britain that write in here with crushes on their teachers, of course they don't think they are "crushes" they are always sure they have found true love.LOL
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reader, ..x.. Untouchable ..x.. +, writes (29 February 2008):
 As i dont know your school or teacher, This sounds a bit creepy,but ask around to see if he is known to favour pupils or known as a pervet to anyone in the school..if he is purposely always picking you to do jobs then you must be in his favour but if you find out that he treats you like any other pupil at your school you have nothing to worry about but if he is just favouring you then i would tell a teacher or your mum your quite concerned and you think he has the wrong idea in your help..i hope this boosts your confidence a little and find more information out about this teacher but i wouldnt panic unless he came onto you for sure, ask your mum just out of interest but dont give off the wrong idea and send accusations..Reply if this helped :)
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