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writes:hiya, i wrote up the other day about the fact i'd fell in love with my friend but knew we could never be together becasue he has no idea about it all and everything. Anyway i seriously can't take it anymore, i don't know why i've let it come to this! I mean i was sure he liked me but now i'm not to sure at all. I've had quite a few problems with the people in my class and them making me feel unwanted and i've admitted i would rather hang round with this lad and his friends(we're all one big class) but about a month ago i'd of been fine with that but now i'm wondring if they'd even want me there. He doesn't actually say anything horrible to me just sometimes laughs along and stuff with them rest of them. Anyway from me thinking he liked me i've gone n fell in love with him. He's all i think about, all i want and juts the fact that he doesn't show as much interest in me anymore and the fact that he went to sit with someone else instead of me is seriously getting me down. We were talking this morning and stuff and we were fine i just feel so depressed now because although i always knew that even if he did like me he'd probably never tell me, i've just got to the point where i just want to cry all the time because i want to be with him! I can't get over him, i mean i have to see him everyday, its a very small college and we all hang round togeteher as we don't know anyone else. I just wish i could get to know him beter and sort of become as good friends with him as he is with others but how? I mean he doesn't hang round with anyone outside college out of college or anything he has his own life but just the fact that i've let it get to this stage its upsetting me so much. So basically 1) i want to be better friends with him lke in college and stuff but don't know how? 2) i need to get over him because i can't stop looking at him its seriously affecting my WHOLE life but at the same time i'm still hanging on to hope that he likes me! and a final one from these things could you tell me if you think these are signs that he likes me?-he used to stare at me a lot-once he followed my every move-i thought i heard someone ask him a question and he answered with my name(i think) and then after that we were sitting togetehr and someone said something to him and he sort of laughed and said shut up to her as if he was embarrassed and also he hasn't spoke to me as much since then-someones said something to the effect of when asking me to do something " he likes you best"-i've been acused by people of liking him-he used to talk to me quite alot-on valentines day i caught him staring at me becasue he was sitting opposite me-when others have been alright with me in the class and some of the others ave sorta said stuff to me like "he's got nice hair, hes fit" etc.Anyway yeah can you please help me with these things, im just still holding on to the hope that he does still like me but i just can't bare it anymore! I need to get over him!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 February 2008): i had pretty much this exact problem recently. apart from my guy had a girlfriend i didn't know and i ended up telling him i liked him. i was really depressed for a while but then after months and months and months i actually did manage to let go. i still look at him sometimes and think "if only" but i'm really happy now. i've got two links for you.... one is a wikipedia thing on 'unrequited love' http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Unrequited_love and the other is a 'how to' (get over unrequited love)... http://www.ehow.com/how_2054274_deal-unrequited-love.html i found they helped, even if only the slightest bit. good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 February 2008): mhmm i see well it sortof seems like he likes you but doesnt want anyone to know about it sighns are there but it seems like his friends may be holding him back.but you REALLY need to tell him how you feel.anyway to answer some of your question
1.ask him if he wants to hang out sometime talk to him when you can just try to get the curage needed to talk to him on a normal level
2.time is a big factor in people getting over someone try to get interested in someone else hang out with good friends and try not to think about him so much though if your like me these things didnt help me im still in love with her so sometimes you just have to relise that you may always have some feelings for them simply try not to bolster those feelings
and for your last question yes it does seem like he either likes you or liked you but you seriously need to talk to him about it and tell him how you feel. good luck
-michael
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