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female
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36-40,
*ustoverit
writes:My ex-boyfriend and I have not been in a relationship together for about two months, but we continued to sleep together and hang out. Technically since I’m single I thought it was ok to sleep with other people. I mentioned it to him and he was furious. A little over an hour ago he text me saying I hurt him. My question is why, he is so upset when he broke up with me, and told me he had no intention of ever being with me again. Why does he think its ok for him to do it, but not me? Why does he feel that I should still remain loyal to him even when Im not with him. Why does he constantly tell me im disgusting and he's done with me, but on nights like this drunken text me. He cheated on me once and I forgave him will he ever forgive me.
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reader, Candid Cally +, writes (13 August 2012):
Please, stop texting him. Stop calling him. Stop answering his calls and texts. Unfriend him on any social networking sites. He is not your boyfriend. He is NOT even your FRIEND if he says you are disgusting and he is done with you.
It is time that you woman-up and tell him you are done with him. He is not your boyfriend. He is not your friend. The only person who is benefiting from this relationship is your ex.
Alcohol is not an excuse. He is taking advantage of you and using you. Please find the courage to put your foot down and end this. You will be a stronger person onxe you do.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2012): I agree with Cerberus.
His reasons are obvious. All you have to do is stop assuming that he cares about being fair and respectful to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2012): Because he owns you OP, you're his property and what he says goes and there's nothing you're going to do to change that.
He gets all the sex, the affection and all trappings of a relationship without having to be committed to you and when you see someone else he knows all he has to do is to give out to you and you'll stop and he gets to keep you all to himself.
Why does he act this way? Because he can, he can do whatever he wants and you'll always put up with it. How can be so damning and sure? Because I've seen your type before, instead of thinking "I'm not going to be treated this way, this guy can piss off." you try to find reasons instead.
What do you need to know the "whys" for OP? You need to ask yourself why the "whys" are more important than you removing him from your life and moving on.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (11 August 2012):
A classic case of the numerous problems with FWB arrangements, especially where there was previously an emotional relationship. You can’t jump from a relationship to FWB, it just doesn’t work. Why on earth would you want him to forgive you? You’re better off moving on and concentrating on dating other people when you’re ready to do so. Stop sleeping with him, have some self-respect and cut this man out of your life. He clearly thinks he can have it all, the single life, no commitments but sex on tap whenever he wants it. As long as you continue to allow him to have all of that, he’ll never change and treat you properly. Why should he treat you any differently if you’re happy to accept what you’ve got now? Tell him it’s over, go your separate ways and you’ll be much happier without him. You deserve better.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (11 August 2012):
 Why are you still having sex with him if you have broken up? Why do you care if he forgives you or not?
Is the half assed relationship you currently have with him enough for you?
Do you want something better in your life than this?
Why don't you just block his number, block him of social networking sites, avoid where he might be and just work on getting over him?
The longer you allow yourself to be ruled by whatever it is that keeps you clinging to this sorry excuse for a relationship the longer it is going to take for you to get over him and it and start building a happier, lovelier life for yourself.
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