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writes:alrighty , my boyfriend moved away for work about 2 months ago , we've had our rough spots but so far everythings going good , the problem is when he got there and till right now hes been living with his uncle but now hes talking about moveing out by himself and i dont feel comforable with it , im going down there to stay with him in the summer and we already found a place to rent out when i come down and i have a summer job lined up , but i dont understand why hes in a rush to move out right now , and i dont no why its bothering me so much . anyone have advice?
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reader, k_c100  +, writes (29 April 2010):
 Well he has a new job and is clearly earning some money so he just wants to be independant - there is no harm in that! Living with family is not ideal after a certain age, and when you are earning your own money really you dont want to be restricted by family and all the rules and respect that comes with living in someone else's house. As much as I love my parents I could not wait to move out and I would never go back there, I love having my own house so I can come and go when I please, cook & eat what I want, dress how I want, not get any hassle from my mum......the list could go on and on!
I moved out when I was 18 and have never been remotely tempted to move home, even when I have been struggling for money! So I guess your boyfriend is just come to that stage in life where he wants his independance and feels ready to support himself. He is growing up really, and maturing into an adult. This is totally normal for someone around his age, especially when they are working and earning a decent wage.
I really have no idea why you are so bothered by the idea - 99% of other girls would be thrilled with the idea! It means you can go to his place whenever you want, you can make it a little home for yourselves, you can do what you want.....all teenagers your age tend to crave freedom from family so I am very surprised you are against this! I cant answer your question as why is is bothering you so much - only you can figure out that one! What is it about moving out dont you like? Why dont you want him to live alone? Are you upset because you want him to move in with you, and you are jealous that he is going to have his own place for a while before you come down for the summer?
I hope this helps and good luck!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (28 April 2010):
 He is in a rush to move out because any young person would rather live on his own than with his uncle no matter how wonderful the uncle can be. And it bothers you so much because you are jealous and in the back of your mind you fear he can use his freedom to "go wild " and take girls home.
I don't think you need to worry, you have been planning for spending the summer together and you've got everything lined up,everything seems to be ok.
If in the past he never gave you any reason for mistrusting him, - just forget about your insecurities and look forward to the summer.
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