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writes:Well, I have a crush on this guy. I always see him on the bus stop when I come from school early. He's beautiful! He has long red dreads and a pale face with the cutest freckles. He's older than me. I think by a lot of years and he might be on drugs or drinking. I can't tell. I really like him and I can't get up the urge to talk to him. And if he's on drugs I don't want to be with a druggie. He's just so gorgeous. He's so tall. When I see him my body gets hot all over and I long to know more about him but I keep telling myself that if he is an alky or druggie he's dangerous. OMG, what should I do?Also, I'm black and he's white and I'm unsure if he'll even look at me the same way. I'll admit I am abit bookish with natural hair.What should I say to him?
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reader, ladyjaye  +, writes (28 April 2010):
 you think he's a druggie??? or an alcoholic??? girl put your lust aside and concentrate on guys your own age group.. this has the potential to be dangerous... If you look "bookish" as you describe (i can completely emapthise being black with natural hair and glasses!!)have you considered altering your appearance a small change such as a classy wig (you can get lovely ones at a cheap price on ebay including lace wigs). Thats if you dont want to relax it. Change a few of your clothes and see if you get a response from your friends and family... im sure this will boost your confidence. it sounds to me as if you regard yourself quite low and all you need is some self esteem... If you think someones on drugs stay away!!!! gud luck!!
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reader, It's all be okay +, writes (28 April 2010):
It's very sweet - you have seen a man you don't know at all, and you fancy him, in the naturalest possible way. If he is regularly at the bus stop, then you'll just have to take it slowly - for example, one day you say "lovely day today, isn't it?" and see if he replies or ignores you.Another day you say, "busy today, isn't it?" and so on. Until you see whether a conversation naturally starts to happen. If it doesn't after a few days of casual remarks, then you can be sure that he doesn't fancy you too. But if he says "oh hello again, how are you today?" and so on, then you keep going, and at some point either him or you might say "fancy getting a coffee?". You'll soon find out whether your physical attraction is backed up by him being someone who has similar interests to you (including whether he takes drugs or drink or whatever).Don't worry about the differences in race - these are irrelevant.
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