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writes:This was a friend of mine for a while, he knew I liked him and ran hot and cold. Playing me. I was quite drunk when I saw him last week, and he made a move on me. I was so happy. But then after making out until it was late I just wanted to go to sleep. He was pressuring me to have sex with him. He said some cruel things. I refused. And I haven't heard from him since. It hurts so much that he would use me like that. I trusted him. I thought he respected me. I'm angry that I fell for this old line. But I still wish he would call me! I want to see him and talk to him, even though he treated me so poorly. What is wrong with me? Why can't I get him out of my head? I know he shouldn't be on my mind because he isn't someone I want in my life like that, so how do I move on from this? It hurts. :( I feel pathetic for it. I feel betrayed and stupid and I hate that he has this power over me.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (11 November 2009):
You're not pathetic at all. You should in fact be proud that you stood up for yourself. A lot of people would have given in and really regretted it. So good for you. This guy just wanted to use you for sex, and the fact that he has suddenly stopped talking proves it. If he really liked you, he wouldn't have acted this way. He has no power over you at all. You're better than him and deserve a better guy. End all contact with him and never contact him again. Spend time just loving yourself and mending your heart, then, when you're ready, yu'll find a great guy who won't play with your heart.
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reader, grubbyduckling  +, writes (11 November 2009):
It's an addiction like any other. Be healthy and quit this relationship cold-turkey! Imagine the perfect relationship and ask yourself how is it different from the one that you're in? You know you deserve someone better, so be healthy and quit him!!
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reader, generalist  +, writes (11 November 2009):
girl...try and understand...he wanted you only for sex...dont get sentimentally involved with him...its good that you were able to still control the situation at that point of time....i appriciate that you came to know the truth at the right time..move on ,there are lot of people who want you for love and not for sex..
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