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writes: I have recently split up with my partner of 7 years. We have a 1 year old son and the only reason we split was because we could not live together any more. I love him deeply and he still loves me but I don't know if we are going to get back together. He was my first love, as we dated when I was 16. I am now 27. I thought he was my soulmate, but as I have asked him to leave the family home he says that is the end of it all, even though we still love each other. Will I ever get him back? thank you
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reader, marn +, writes (25 July 2005):
well this is the problem with first loves. you thought he was your soulmate but this was becuase you have not experienced loving anyone else. alot of people marry their childhood sweethearts but sometimes these do not work out. to be quite honest i think that you should really call it a day. because if you carnt live with eachother then you never will be able. but remeber you have a child involved so make sure you stay good friends. you may find this alot better than anything more than friendship! find someone new, he obviously is not your soulmate! because of the fact you can not live with him, and if you carnt live with him then your not right for eachother.
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reader, Ask MiMi +, writes (25 July 2005):
Are you sure you really want him to leave the home? Did you ask him to leave out of anger and frustration, or did you both try everything to make it work? Perhaps he was upset when he told you it was over for good, and when he has some time to think about it, he would realise that he really misses you and that you both could try to mend the broken bridges. You seem to really love him still, I wish you all the best and I hope you both can work it out and be very happy in love.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2005): I too recently split with my partner of 6 years but we have no children together. We split over niggly things that werent really important and both of us had too much pride to tell each other how we really felt and spent 3 months skirting around until one day I was so unhappy I told him how much I missed him and wanted him back. He had found someone else and doesnt want me back now.
I would say if in your heart of hearts you know that you live each other, for Gods sake tell him! The longer you spend apart, the more the chance of hom finding someone else even if it is just to get over the pain of losing you.
You really need to arrange a time to sit and talk uninterrupted and to ask him to be honest.
If he still says its over then, like me, you will have some painful months ahead of you. But close the door and build your support network. There will always be friends and family for you to talk to. It was a while before I was able to do that but when I did, things started getting better.
Also once your ex sees that you are getting on with your life without him, he may just realise what he has lost and want you back.
Its been 4 months now since I split up with my ex and Im still struggling because he has someone else but each day gets just a little bit better.
You owe it you yourself to find out if there is a chance for the two of you instead of spending months in limbo. Please go talk to him
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