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writes:I had sex with my brother I only started my period a month ago and I know your not even supposed to have produced eggs by this point but I'm worried and I don't want tests or to tell anyone. Please help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 November 2008): first of all why did you sleep with your brother? don't you know that's incest?especially when you have your period. but im not here to judge, what's done is done. you gotta get this checked out you can't just sit and hope you don't have anything. and if you do, you gotta tell your mother, this isn't the type of thing you can handle yourself. if you don't want to tell her that it's your brother, that's your decision but go see a docter and get some accurate answers.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2008): tell your mother about ur problem but don,t tell her you have sex with ur brother tell her you have sex with some one.i m sure she help you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 September 2007): Okay. Having your period means that now if you have sex with someone, you could have a possibility of being pregnant. You're becoming a woman.
Now, if you are really that afraid, you shouldn't really have had sex with your sibling, although I'm not yelling or accusing you for something. I don't want you to feel that uncomfortable.
What you have to be careful is, you might have a chance of getting a disease since you had slept with your brother. Yes, a bit scary, but take tests before that.
If you can't talk to your parents, talk to a school nurse, or even ask your friend's mom, or someone to drop you off to the doctors, and get a check up. Pregnancy tests aren't exactly accurate. I remember my friend "did it" with this guy, and she took a pregnant test, and it said that she was pregnant. She actually WANTED a baby --; So she goes to the doctor excited for results, and realized, she had no baby from the start. The explanation is, she was so determined to have this baby, that she sort of blanked out of reality. Since she was determined mentally & physically, it was quite scary, but that's what changed the results on her pregnancy test. So just be careful when you actually do take a pregnancy test. They have a 99.9% chance of being correct, but there's that tiny 1% of it being wrong.
Remember to talk to a trusted adult, and get a check up IMMEDIATELY.
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reader, Courtney_ann  +, writes (31 August 2007):
 Hon, they other poster is right. You can get pregnant before your first period. typically it takes four-five weeks for a pregnancy test to be accurate. I would get tested for STD's though. I was sexually active at your age so I won't lecture. I am sure there is some kind of health clinic where you live. If you are, the baby will come whether you ignore it or not...so don't ignore the situation. To the other posters: Please do not reply for whole countries (ummm the U.S.) Not everyone likes to be lumped into your opinions. "Such a thing as right and wrong even in your society, sounds a bit condescending. Thank you CourtneyPS. to the poster sorry about that distraction.
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reader, stina +, writes (31 August 2007):
 "Also, to the woman named Stina, I am curious as to why you don't think it's wrong to have sex with a sibling." Because I don't care who has sex with who as long as it's consensual between both (or more) parties. (Why should I be interested in/care about anyone's sex life but my own, anyway?)And since this has nothing to do with what the question asker posted about, if you'd like to talk more about this you can either private message me here or start a thread in the forums. (I hate junking up people's threads with conversation - that's not what this part of the site is for.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 August 2007): Did you agree to have sex with your brother? Is this something you are doing regularly or was it a one-time thing?
Also, to the woman named Stina, I am curious as to why you don't think it's wrong to have sex with a sibling. Most women I know would think this is not only wrong, but disgusting. So I am curious as to why you do not think that it is wrong. On a related note, I have read a lot of posts on the Internet from girls who not only had sex with their brother, but enjoyed it. I think it does happen more often than most people would think.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2007): did he push you into it?
when i was 13 my boyfriend tried to push me into having sex with him, i didn't realise how serious it was at the time. if he made you do it, then please you must tell an adult.
if he didn't make you do it, then you needn't tell anyone that it was him, just make sure you tell your doctor you may be pregnant. if you can't get to a doctor alone, you must make sure you tell someone.
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reader, LethalInjection-x +, writes (16 August 2007):
 It's sad to see so many people degrading you simply because it was with your brother that you had sex with.
Also, you can become pregnant whether you've had your first period or not, girls are BORN with eggs, and they produce them from then, so technically you could get pregnant before your first period.
I hope you did look into the morning after pill, if you didn't, well 72 hours have evidently passed now, so if you still have the problem you need to look at other options.
I'd suggest the Brook clinic, from what I've been told, they don't tell anyone, it's completely confidential and they're non-judgmental aswell. There's clinics all around the UK, just look on the internet.
Take a friend with you, you don't need to explain to your friend exactly what the situation is, just take them for some moral support, and explain to them not to let you go home without speaking to someone.
It's for the best, and once you've been you won't be worrying anymore.
Everybody makes mistakes, you can only learn from them.
Good luck sweetie xxx
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reader, hotstuff +, writes (14 August 2007):
 If I may ask why with your brother? (you don't have to answer) You have started your period so now you are able to get pregnant, so I think you need to take the morning after pill. I know you might be enbarassed but I think you will feel much bettter after you do. If I may ask did you use protection? If not you really need to get the pill. I am sorry that you had to go through this at your young age.
If you were forced into haveing sex with your brother than you need to talk to someone you trust and tell them! He can get in truble for what he did, but if you two did it because you love eachother enough to do it then that is up to you!!
I personaly have never had to go through this but I can relate to your fealings. My cousin , very close, went through the same thing, except not with her bro.
I hope I have been some help and sorry again.
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reader, amber nuttall +, writes (14 August 2007):
You need to sort it out quickly. You should always use contreception. I started to have sex at your age, and i had men forcing me into having sex a few times, not one used contreception. I would sit and pray for my period to start. I've been very lucky.
I've even had boyfriends whom have forced me into having sex without using condoms, and some have taken them off half way through sex!
i soon realised, i'm better than this!
& dumped them all.
Don't let yourself be pushed around, trust me.
I use to be scared about having sex, it was painful & uncomfortable everytime. I just did it, i had too.
Now i'm happy with someone whom loves & cares for me very much, now sex is something i enjoy.
I also think you need help.
why with your brother?
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2007): some how i think this young lady does want people to comment about her having sex with her brother! why i hear you cry, because she mentioned it!!! Why mention she is having sex with her brother? She is old enough to know this is wrong, this is an obvious cry for help. Please talk to someone, childline manybe. Morning after pill for the pregnancy, but with the brother issue, you certainly need professional help, and so does he!!Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2007): well, there is a reason she pointed out that she had sex with her brother, right?
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reader, stina +, writes (13 August 2007):
Hello Rebecca T,
You say that you don't want to tell anyone - but if you do that, then there is no way you can be helped if you are on the way to becoming pregnant. If you want to try and stop a pregnancy, you have to tell at least one person - the doctor. (It's not like you have to say that you slept with your brother - just say that you slept with someone and are worried that you may become pregnant because protection wasn't used.)
Please see a doctor about getting the morning after pill if you are scared that you are pregnant. I'm guessing you didn't use protection? (Pulling out is not a true form of protection, so if this is what you did, it'd be safest to try and get the morning after pill).
Also while you're there, you should see about getting on some form of birth control if you plan on having sex again in the future - with your brother or with anyone else.
And remember, there are many, many, MANY girls at your age that already have sex (actually, a study was released last month stating that the average age for someone to have sex for the first time is at age 14.) Don't feel embarassed or have any negative thoughts associated with going to the doctor for birth control. Besides, they've heard everything before - hearing about how a 14 year old girl wants birth control is not going to be a shocker.
I also want to add, contrary to what others have said here, it is not "wrong" to have sex with a sibling, it is just not too common in many cultures. (There are cultures that promote relations between family members. I suggest doing some research if you are interested.) People tend to label what they are unfamiliar with as "disgusting" and "wrong." But, the fact of the matter is that there is no wrong or right person for you to be having a sexual relationship with. The only thing that should matter is if you are comfortable having sex with that person. And if you do become pregnant, then don't worry that your baby will have a birth defect, etc. There is only a 3 - 5% chance increase in risk for anything like that to occur. Please, look the information up and speak with a doctor. Reading people's opinions about the *facts* is just going to get you worried.
But, if you believe that you were manipulated into having sex with your brother, you need to talk to someone. Tell them what your brother said, what you said, how you felt, etc. I'm not sure if you feel comfortable telling your parents any of this (eventually they'll find out), so maybe you'd want to consider speaking with another close family member first.
Take care. And please remember that you didn't do anything disgusting or wrong - it just would have been wise to use protection.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2007): rhythmandblues, you have a lot to learn about counselling someone who needs help if you think it's a liberal perspective that I write with. You should keep your comments to yourself or write to me in a private message. If I were to criticise your posts in the way you do mine, I'd be a busy person putting my opinion on your "advice".
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reader, Love_is_all_youu_need +, writes (13 August 2007):
 This is quite a tough situation! And yes, if i were you i'd be worried about being pregnant too - yu should go to a clinic maybe with a close friend who yu can trust and get sum tests dun - its for the best hunni! Havin a baby with your brother is not only disgusting but can cause alot of problems to the baby such as deformation and other serious problems! Don't just leave it, cos beforelong there your belly mite start getting bigger then you'd have some explaining to do!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2007): If you are 13 to 15 and your brother is 16 or older, this is considered rape and child abuse, this is not appropriate behavior for a brother and sister to have sex with each other....your brother has become a sexual predator, and you need to speak to a trusted adult about this, you all need some family counseling.
Dr Pete, I know you are very liberal on your views, but there is such a thing as right and wrong even in your society, and this concerns me for this little girl to have been molested in this way by a family member....we here in the US, don't take to kindly of this sort of abuse, and that is what it is, she is a child.....and if you consider telling her this as judgemental, then you need to redefine that word for yourself....I assume you can take someone else's viewpoint, as you are always stating yours about other's comments here on this forum.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2007): Anonymous: That's because people don't write on here to be judged. The point of this website is to offer advice based on what people are asking advice for.Did she mention that she wanted people to tell her what they think about her being with her brother? No. So why bother replying? Or do you think you will achieve something by posting anonymous rubbish on an Internet forum?Go and get a audience pass for Jerry Springer or something, but whatever you do, stop waisting your time, and what's infinitely worse, ours.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (13 August 2007):
 Hi
Sorry, with your brother?
If you can, you need to go get the morning after pill. Will stop you getting pregnant. Its fine to take up to 72 hours after the event. As for your brother, how old is he? I think once your periods have started you might well be able to get pregnant.
Then you need to call child line if you are under 16 & speak to someone in confidence. You dont have to give your name & the call is free. They wont judge you, just give you some advice.
C xxxx
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (13 August 2007):
 If you are having unprotected sex then you better be ready to take a lot of TESTS. Pregnancy tests, STD tests, IQ tests.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2007): If you had sex in the last few days then you should go to a chemist and get the emergency contraceptive pill. It is free of charge and is very effective at preventing a pregnancy.
Now that you are sexually active you have a responsibility to yourself and other people to be aware of pregnancy risks and also sexual transmitted diseases - look in to this and take a little more care about yourself so that you can void getting in to these pregnancy scares and difficult situations. It might also help if you have an adult or someone you can talk to about sex as they will be able to advice you better.
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