I had an affair and I love him.

A female age 36-40, anonymous writes:

Last year i had an affair with a married man and too this day i am still in love with him. i have never been able to get over him and i know for a fact he loved me aswell. I have decided to write him a letter but as if its wrote to his wife. SO he can see things from a different angle. this letter involves every moment, feeling, emotion, innocent and everything that has happened between us. I am sending it too his work next week but i am scared off his reaction. i also am going to send him an email before hand to let me know that its not for his wife but i only wrote it that way to let him see the full extent of what i have been through and how things were between us. if i right it as if i am writting it to him then i cant explain everything that i want too. there is also key points that would prove to his wife that this happened which i am not putting in this letter and i am going to tell him that to make him evan more aware of how much i do love him and i all i want from this is peace. Deep down i hope it helps him be honest at least with himself. he has been honest with me at times and told me he does love me but i feel like this letter may changes things. i am really scared he will flip his lid at me but he needs to know the truth. i am sending it special delivery aswell to his work and not his home address which i do have. i would never do that. I hope something can come from this that will help me move on as its been a year later and i can't do that. its really this or go and see him myself! He lives far away and I can't see him when i want. I am writting this on dear cupid to get a response from people about what i am doing. i am fully aware most people will say, why don't u just move on and forget him. hes married! Its not that easy and for people who have been in this situation you may understand where i am coming from. I go to counselling for this and it doesnt help so hopefully this letter will. All responses welcome. xx

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