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writes:My boyfriend regulary smokes dope and suffers from depression. Recently I have noticed his moods steadily getting worse and worse, hes increased in paranoid episodes and become generally more difficult to get through to and talk to. He has suffered from depression for a while but stopped taking his anti depressants as he said they stopped him sleeping, I told him to go and see the doctors to change his medication but he hasnt been back and short of dragging him there I cant really think what to do. He says the dope helps him to sleep, as he has formally been addicted to sleeping tablets and does suffer from heavy insomnia, but due to the addictive nature of sleeping tablets his doctor refuses to give him anymore. I have tried explaining to him that the weed is starting to have a massive influence on his moods, and that i think he should maybe cut down a bit, but he insists that it doesnt and that he only uses it to make him sleep. I am starting to become very worried he is getting addicted but cant get through to him, his mood swings are becoming terrible and have already nearly resulted in him cheating on me because we had a fight and taking many things out on me he normally wouldnt. Its having a detremental affect on our relationship and I dont know what to do, I dont want to seem like a pushy girlfriend that stops him having fun, Im not like that, I like him to go out and do his own thing thats fine, but he is starting to scare me just how much affect it is having on his mental health, and our relationship
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 April 2008): Heyy,
i went threw the exact same problem about 3days ago, my boyfriend got addicted he was taking things out on me, it got to a point were he smoked every day 4 or 5 times, so wenever i talk to him hes stoned and when he is he doesnt really care about anything, sumtimes he doesnt care about me. It hurt to watch him through his life away like this, i asked him one night when he was over would you choose the weed or me???.....he said me. BUt i told him to cut down on his weed but because he is so into it, he didnt listen to me his moods got worse he got to a point were he started hitting himself cause of his anger then i stopped him but he started hitting me.
You need to tell your boyfriend to stop weed before he gets addicted or too addicted because thats when he looses the plot like my boyfriend did, my bf got to a point where he didnt give a shit about me and he dumped me about 2days ago i was soo upset it really hurt, but you need to tell him to stop now if he doesnt listen to you then maybe you should suggest to him that its either me or the weed.
or you could go to a helpine it could cost a bit but if you really want to help him then these links could be a way to go.
www.flordis.info/quitsmoking/home
If you dont want to tell him how he is going to end up you can use my story as an example to him, then maybe you could give him some advice like tell him to stop hanging around the people that do smoke, maybe suggest to him getting a job that may help but then again he probably will do it to smoke weed, the best advie i could give you would be................
to mention to him my story and that you hate him smoking it, or you may even should think about breaking it off with him it will be hard yes i have been there once but wee got back together cause he promisecd he would stop. or you could tell him too cut down and for him to stay away from his friends its best to tell him what you think early before he gets to involved...thats the mistake i made i couldnt say anything or he would break it off but i didnt say anythign cause i loved him.
Really think about it.
Goodluck xox
email me at [email address blocked] if you need anything else
Renae xx
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