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writes:OkaySo I'm seeing this guy I met online...it's been almost a year now, and recently I noticed a few small comments about weight..."oh you should have seen this guy at the mall...he was HUGE!" things like that...My BF is in Japan and I am in the USA. So first I didn't say anything about these comments...but yesterday I said something about my getting glances and flirty looks from people when I was wearing these skin-tight jeans. I was shocked because I normally don't wear tight or reveiling clothing. So I said something like..."geez, if I get stared at I can imagine what it's like for people smaller than me"Now granted, I'm not obese, but I am certainly not a size two...I'm comfortable and healthy, and to me thats more important than fitting into the smallest clothing...So then my BF says to me something along the lines of I must be heavier than I told him...I got upset by this because I HAVE been extremely overweight, and most of my family is obese...so these comments hurt me even though I am no longer as heavy as I was...We were planning on spending the week together in March, but he said to me...."if you are 300lbs just forget it, I don't want to see you in March"He has seen pictures of me, but he says pictures can be decieving, I even offered to send him updated ones since I have nothing to hide...but he said that because I got so upset about his comments then i must be hiding something....What do I do??????
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (24 October 2007):
 He is a shallow superficial arsehole.
So why are you still in communication with him?
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reader, Charley x  +, writes (23 October 2007):
 Look Sweetheart if this bey relii loves you he wuldnt care about you weight, i was in hospitial for anorexia and belimia and i still think im fat but dont let it get into your head it's the worst thing you could do. He should say that your not i mean my boyfriend says im not but i secretly know that i am. He should respect your feelings if not is he worth it?
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reader, rcn +, writes (23 October 2007):
 You are hiding something. You're not calling him an arrogant asshole. You want to spend time with this guy "WHY"? Did you find this guy on one of those sites that warn people not to date him. You said your family members are bigger? I would love to see that introduction.If I were you I'd tell him "you're not a very nice person, and I don't want to be with someone who is as critical of others as you are." END IT. People like him are part of the reason that so many are fighting eating disorders. I hate to say it but if you don't, you need to have your head examined because you'd be willing to settle for anything.
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reader, girlwhoneedshelp +, writes (23 October 2007):
 GET OVER HIM. He is a complete loser. He is shallow and not good enough for you at all. In fact he doesn't sound good enough for any woman. He talks to you like crap and makes you feel awful. He has no respect for you whatsoever and there is obviously no loving or caring feelings there on his behalf. I wouldn't be surprised if he was just looking for sex. He really sounds awful, don't let yourself get caught up with him anymore!
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