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writes:I love a girl, but she already has a boyfriend. And there is no signs that they'll break up any time soon. I really love her, and there is no one else I want besides her. If only she knew how I felt. I would do anything for her. What should I do? I really love her...
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reader, Blue_Angel0316  +, writes (24 October 2007):
 If you love her then you will do what is best for her. Be her friend. If she becomes single then you may persue her heart.
If you try to tell her now she may become confused and if break up with him to be with you. Then of course you might be thinking that she would do this to you also. Chances are she just might!
By stepping back and loving her from afar you will enable her to make a decision without interferrence from you. This will give you time to focus on you. If you aren't willing to just move on away from her then give her time to do what she must even if she stays with him .( Maybe even forever)
Remember " Love is patient"
" Love is kind"
So keep on loving but let her have the chance to find the love in her heart for the special one she will love for the rest of her life.
Best wishes and God bless you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2007): You don't love her, you fancy her, which are two totally different things.
Love is something that grows over time, and as you two haven't been together yet I don't see how she could possibly love you either.
If you're the patient type, you could wait for her current relationship to fall by the wayside before making a move, but don't hold your breath.
I would strongly suggest you look elsewhere - she's already taken and therefore unavailable.
There's a little saying that to my mind sums this situation up quite nicely. "no matter how good she looks, there's always some other guy totally pissed off at putting up with her attitude." Worth considering, don't you think?
Phil
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reader, gmapeaches +, writes (23 October 2007):
 Its tough to put yourself out there.. i understand.. but you will never know unless you do.. you might want to try a little dialouge starting with. "I would never want this to hurt our friendship and I know you are with someone.. but I want to make sure you know you have other options.. I am another option.. " You know.. however you word it.. if you don't you will always wonder.. if you spill it and she is not interested, you get hurt a little, if you spill it and she is interested, you get her. If you never tell her, you will live with that what if forever.. I know easier said than done.. but you have one chance at this life you are living.. its almost like saying I would really like to have a job at... where ever.. but never applying for it.. Be brave.. Go for it.. and good luck.. don't for a minute think i don't know how hard it will be, but you know if you do love her she must be worth the risk..
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