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writes:I've recently become more and more attracted to a close friend of mine. I'm 21 but she's 34. She's single and we always get on very well when we're together but I want to spend time with her as more than friends. How can I find out if she feels the same without ruining our friendship? Reply to this Question
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reader, Blue_Angel0316  +, writes (23 October 2007):
 Make a date and go somewhere special with your fiend. Make eye contact with her often and notice if she is doing the same. Let her get the feel of your presence and she how she reacts. (Body language)
It the moment presents itself and you think you can spit it out let her know that you care about her. Tell her you enjoy spending time with her. She is bound to comment. Watch that body language and notice the tone of her voice.
If it seems she kinda likes you don't move to fast. let things happen naturally. Sometimes good friend become the best of lovers. You two already have that connection or bond of a potential relationship because you get along so well. So why not chance it! What do you have to loose?
Example: My b/f and I recently broke up. I was broken hearted but I love him dearly. He and I left the relationship in a friendly manner. We were freinds several months before the relationship started, We got along well, partied together and even sang and dance together at a local club.
Now that we have split it is a bit akward to be friends but we both made up our minds that we would always be friends. He still calls me every week and we still party at the same place. We don't dance or sing together since the breakup less than 7 weeks ago. I think it is too soon for him to deal with that. I am a very loving person and so is he. We are just working toward keeping, maintaining and recapturing our friendship.
I hope this will help you see things in a different light. Go for it and best wishes.
Godspeed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 October 2007): You can invite her out often, and one evening tell her you like to spend time in her company and start from there. Don't say it "casually," as some would suggest. That would mean you're afraid of her reaction or would indicate her it's not as important as it is. Also don't say it "with expectations," but simply to let your feelings shown. Some become friends only after they have started dating. Ask me, friendship is the best basis for love relations, so you are in the best cronological order, to say so. The friendship will not be jeopardised unless you allow this to. If it doesn't continue as you wish, you will find a way to carry on with the meetings from the initial level. All the best...
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reader, kenny +, writes (23 October 2007):
 I feel all you can do here is ask her how she feels. Pick a good time where there is a sort of romantic ambience and say that you feel you have both been getting on really well and would like to see her as more than just a friends. Express that you think alot of her and the last thing that you would ever want to do is ruin the friendship that you both have.
Good luck
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reader, blazee +, writes (23 October 2007):
 ask her out, only way she will willingly admit she likes you unless she feels verry strong about you
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