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writes:I am so incredibly emotional during the week before my period. I end up taking it out on my boyfriend. It's getting worse every month. I go to bed sobbing and wake up perfectly fine. I tell my boyfriend things like he doesn't think I'm good enough and he's just has no idea where these things come from. Is there something I can do to make these awful mood swings go away?
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (15 July 2012):
 Welcome to the world of being a woman. I can tell when I am about ready to have my period. I get very moody and will cry just about anything. The most important thing is that you can identify how you feel and act during this time, so you could actually tell other people about it. I know boyfriends may sometime not like to hear we're on our periods, but it might make more sense to him than just thinking you're crazy! Also, when you feel certain emotions coming on you can tell yourself that "I'm just tired and about to start my period" or whatever. Before you fly off the handle at someone, or go into a crying fit, you could just tell your company that you need to be alone for awhile. Sometimes you just feel like the world is ending when you're getting ready to start...at least that is how I sometimes feel. Once I do start, I feel really relaxed. Don't worry about it, but learn how to adapt your behavior.
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reader, Daisy_Daisy  +, writes (15 July 2012):
 Hi, I think you should go and discuss this with your family doctor. Preferably a female one. Hormones are horrible! Good luck x
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reader, Dorothy Dix  +, writes (15 July 2012):
Hi there. The thoughts you have just before your period, are probably there all the time, and just more extreme at that time of the month.
So what I am saying, is that you may be having the exact feelings that your boyfriend doesn't think you're good enough all the time, and it's just that they are milder the other 3 weeks of your cycle, and so not so much of a problem to you.
The real question here is, do you think you are good enough?
All feelings come from within us, nobody puts those thoughts there. Those thoughts and beliefs are ours.
A doctor can't change your belief systems, they can only suggest some kind of mild hormone treatment, to balance your hormones more in the last week or so before your period is due.
What you are describing is premenstrual stress, which most women get at some time, and some cycles are more severe than others.
Your mood swings are affected by hormones, however the thought patterns come from inside you.
Perhaps as a general way of being, you do feel that you aren't good enough, so the ideas could be originating from you.
He never says "you are are not good enough for him", does he?
This is just how you feel at that time of the month?
Short of taking hormones, you could try natural things for easing the stress you feel then.
Things such as going for nice long leisurely walks for 30 minutes to 1 hour, on a regular basis.
This relieves stress, and it's very effective in doing that.
It also helps you to sleep well at night.
At the age you have posted here - 18 - 21 years old - you are probably still in school, so there's some stress for a start.
Any pre-existing stress in your life - such as education and study - adds more stress to your life and then when you are pre-menstrual, it only exacerbates things tenfold!
So the common denominator here, could well be stress, generally.
And then it just gets worse when you are about to menstruate, once all those hormones kick in.
So exercise could well be a key factor here, in dealing with all the stress you may be unaware of, that already exists.
Stress can make people:-
- Very moody,
- Fly off the handle over very little,
- Unable to sleep,
- Loss of clarity of thinking,
- Start coming up with irrational thoughts.
Just so many things happen as a result of constant stress in one's life.
So what I am really saying here, is that stress could well be a regular part of your life - every day - and you may not be aware of how things do get to you.
And then when it comes to premenstrual, well then everything gets magnified!
So the answer to this, could be going for regular walks.
Don't just wait till you are at the premenstrual stage, walk all through the month.
Every day if you can, and certainly at least 3-5 days every week.
If you are not sleeping well at night, well that wouldn't help your moods anyway, as you would be constantly tired and with very low energy levels.
When we are tired, we simply don't have the patience we otherwise would, when we do sleep well.
Being constantly tired, changes everything.
So why not try going for regular walks, as it does make a HUGE difference to how you feel.
And while you are walking, you are just alone with mother nature and your own thoughts, and it can be very cleansing as many different thoughts come and go, and it can help you to make sense of things as well.
When you feel relaxed, your thought patterns change also.
And I have no doubt whatsoever, that it could definitely help when it comes to the premenstrual time.
Whenever you feel really agro and tense - at the premenstrual time - get into some comfortable clothes, good walking shoes, and go for a walk for 30 minutes.
I say this, because premenstrual stress, is STRESS. It's fired off by your hormones.
And stress, does need to be relieved.
And there is probably no better way to do that, than to walk.
However, regularity is the key here.
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