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writes:I'm 19 years old and have been with my boyfriend whos 20 for almost a year...On march 5th I found out he went to his ex girlfriends house. I acted calm and asked him to come over to my house right after so we could talk. He said he just wanted another friend and she was just willing to talk and that i had nothing to worry about. I was extremely suspicious because she always harrased me and said rude things to me..so when he fell asleep I went thru his phone and found a picture of her private parts in his cell phone that she had sent him that day. I woke him up and told him i knew he had cheated on me and to just admit it right now. He did. I never thought this would actually happen but it did. He said it was never ment to happen and he didn't know what he was thinking..He never wanted to hurt me...after a long talk and lots of tears the same night he called her right in front of me and said "I told *lee* what happend with us, everything. And she is way too important to me and i dont want to lose her, so i think we should go our own ways for good". and then he hung up. He apoligized for everything and we just layed there crying... I dont know what to do.. I havn't slept well or eaten much since that day... i always feel sick to my stomach when i think about it.. i just dont know what to think or do, i really need some advice... thank you..
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reader, elsie  +, writes (13 March 2007):
 Sorry but i think lifes too short.iknow exactly where you are coming from because ive had it done to me.my ex kept camcorder tapes of him and his ex need i spell it out?the fact he kept those pictures on his phone is what would worry me.Does he have such a small ego that he needs to go to her.once the shock wears off you need to do some serious talking.He acted like a dog.His ex got what she wanted by sending him those pictures she knew she'd cause trouble.dont do what i did stay just to get one over on her.What's the worst that could happen if you leave?i think the worst has already happened.You'llmeet someone else and wonder what the fuss was about.
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reader, Ask Heather +, writes (9 March 2007):
 I know what you say when you say you feel sick to your stomach. It`s a horrible feeling; we`ve all been there. This guy has abused your trust terribly, and to have that picture on his phone was just too much. Only you can decide if you want to stay with him & try to make a go of things; but if you do decide to try to rebuild what you had with him, he must understand that this is going to take time. Eve sensibly said he should change his phone number; but if his phone is going to constantly haunt you because of the intimate picture you found on it, then you have every right to ask that he replace it. If he truly cares for you he will happily do this. If he truly cares for you, he will do anything to try to repair the damage that he`s done. He needs to show you (not just tell you) how sorry he is, and mean it, and vow that this will NEVER happen again, and mean it. Please let us know how you get on, Kind Regards, Heather.
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reader, AskEve +, writes (8 March 2007):
 He needs to change his phone number and promise you that it IS finally over... and then you've got to trust him. Let him know how much he means to you but if you ever find out that he's been seeing her again then you'll walk!
You say he called her when you were there, are you sure he called her number and wasn't just talking to an empty cell phone? If you're happy that it's been finally settled then get on with things. That's all you really can do. As long as you've let him know that if it ever happens again he's history.
Eve
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reader, seacutiepie  +, writes (8 March 2007):
Lea0289, i was in sort of the sameposition not long ago. What i decided to do (NOT GUARANTEED TO WORK FOR YOU) was to take that as a one chance offering, and to trust him. but i warned him that if it was to happen again, i would leave (cause i live with mine). a girl can only take somuch! you need to make that choice as to whether you will battle it and build a stronger relationship,or move on.
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