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writes:Whenever I ask him to alter a bothersome behavior, he always has an excuse why he doesn't have to, but he can have his own laundry list of complaints and doesn't seem to see that as unfair. All my complaints are little things but I worry when they build up its unbearable. The things he wants me to change are all things that would be better for me as well as our relationship, but I think the changes I want him to make are also vaild. What should I do? Reply to this Question
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reader, AskEve  +, writes (8 March 2007):
 Instead of writing all these lists about things you both dislike about one another, why don't you both write a list of things that you DO like about one another! Write down as many as you can then swap lists.
When we truly love someone, we love them warts and all. None of us are perfect so come on guys... lighten up a little. If there are too many imperfections and things that bother you both then it might be time to rethink the relationship altogether.
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reader, JnikkiM +, writes (8 March 2007):
 Personally I think that people should do alittle compromizing in a relationship but when someone asks you to change too much then they are trying to change you. If he can't accept you and doesn't want to budge at anything you think needs some improvement then it's just time to let go. Easier said then done but it will end up being that way in the long run. Why waist the time just let it burn.
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