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writes:My sister is having an afair with my boyfriend! I was going to his apartment and saw her car. When I got upstairs (I have a key) they were in bed. What should I do? I hate my sister now!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, Msblessed +, writes (3 March 2009):
 dump him because he's dirty and inconsiderate and for now cut your sister off. She betrayed you. Both of them are at fault. Those are suppose to be the two people you could trust and now you can't trust either of them. Maybe eventually you and your sister could go back to having a healthy relationship but for now I would advise you to keep your distance from her or forgive her but let her know you'll never forget
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2009): Everyone keeps saying that you Must forgive your sister, as she is family. But the fact that she could do this to you as Her family- her sister! -in the first place seems worse than ever! Of course part company with your cheating boyfriend, and definately tell your parents so that they will understand your actions. But realise that you are free to make your own judgement against you sister for this, just as you do for your boyfriend. She betrayed and hurt you; you do not have have to laugh it up, or cover up your anger and hurt just to keep up 'family' appearances.
Be true to your own feelings and look after yourself.
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reader, SugarCookie +, writes (3 March 2009):
Dump the guy and family or not she is a person and if thats they kind of person she is then you dont need her in your life. Its really going to suck when you meet the right guy and she tries to get him in bed and he has to come tell you what a slut your sis is. Family or not she isn't worth your time.
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reader, andrew loves hali +, writes (3 March 2009):
 dump the guy and talk to your sister. or yell either one works.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2009): dummp the guy for sure
and talk to your sister try to see what happend because at the end of the day she is your sister and you cannot just stop talkin to her..she will always be around weather you like it or not.
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reader, kllgunner +, writes (3 March 2009):
 dump the fucker and kick your sisters ass and never talk to her again and tell anyone she ever dates wat happend
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reader, jessica04 +, writes (3 March 2009):
 First off, dump that loser.
Second, talk to your sister. Maybe this is just the vengeful side in me, but I would also out her behavior to your family, at least your parents. Not like you need anyone on your side, because you are the innocent here, but they can help keep her from trying to justify her actions.
She clearly didn't have the good sense to not hop into bed with him, so she might need a small family gathering to explain to her that she was wrong and hurtful.
Don't attack her, but she should be outed, otherwise the longer you go hiding it, the more she thinks what she did wasn't so bad.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2009): The boyfriend is not worth it, get rid of him NOW. The sister, however, is family. You can be as mad at her as you like, but unfortunately she won't just go away. Allow her to explain herself, let her know how absolutely wrong and hurtful she has been, and then have a long discussion about all of this. You two both need to come to an understanding that this can never happen again.
It's tricky, I really feel for you. I would understand if you felt like you could never forgive your sister, but for now you have to be civil.
Sheesh I thought my sister was bad... :)
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reader, bobbles32  +, writes (3 March 2009):
 Ditch the guy.
Quick.
And talk to your sister.
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reader, ButterflyKisses +, writes (2 March 2009):
Obviously this guy has GOTS to GO! There should be no question about that one. My biggest concern would be with your sister. This sounds fairly recent, so if I were you I wouldn't address this with her until you have had some time to digest this experience. Come back once you've talked with her. Whatever you do, don't make this situation about the guy, because he's obviously a worthless loser, who could care less about you or your sister.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 March 2009): Ditch the guy, and talk to your sister. You can't hate her forever because your blood but don't ever forget it.
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