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*zibbah
writes:I've been with my girlfriend for a month and a half now. And everything is going so well. She has a past with other boys and it bothered me a lot, but I got over it.But yesterday, I was on her Hyves (other sort of Facebook/Myspace) and I went to her ex-boyfriend's page and started reading their past messages to each other. She seemed way happier than she is with me right now. In our first month, we already had arguments, but they didn't in their first month. Hell, they didn't argue for 6 months straight. My girlfriend is the type of girl who falls in love easily and that is what makes me so confused. Am I just there to make her feel that she's loved? She said that she likes our relationship better than with her ex, but how do I know she isn't just saying that just to make me feel good? I want to know if I'm special to her.. and not just a heart-filler. I know I can talk to her about it, but I don't want to put us in an awkward position where my jealousy is knocking her all around.And also she says she didn't enjoy the sex with her ex-boyfriend, but she does enjoys it with me. But she also said that her ex-boyfriend always bought these cheap condoms without lubricant, but his 'you know' is probably bigger than mine 'cause she said that in an avoided way, so if he bought normal condoms, she probably would have enjoyed it. I know that's all in the past, but the jealousy is KILLING me.And all those questions.. if I'm special to her or not..I need advice.. =[
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reader, kllgunner  +, writes (3 March 2009):
 Of course you are or you wouldn't be with her or maybe she's a slut I don't know, but either way she's with you not them so forget about it. All guys are jealous!
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reader, Lzibbah +, writes (3 March 2009):
Lzibbah is verified as being by the original poster of the questionA female reader, bobbles32 +, writes (3 March 2009):
"Facebook, Myspace and hyves ruin relationships. You should never have gone and looked at her old msgs to someone she used to care about. She was with him and now she's with you. If she wanted to be with him then she would be. I'm sure that if she's with you and not him then you're special to her.
If you don't feel like this is the case and that you're just her "heart-filler" you probably need to get out of the relationship quick. You're having serious doubts.
If you REALLY like the girl then tell her how you feel and tell her you read their past msgs. "
I know I shouldn't have looked into her old messages, but I was so curious =/ I just couldn't resist and see how they were.
And I know I'm having serious doubts, but I really love her and I don't want to break up just because of my doubts.
I did tell her about that I read her old messages and she didn't want to talk about it.
I'm just being really paranoid.. and I just wanted to hear some advice __'
And thanks anonymous-person. Your words have made me feel better =]
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2009): You need to calm down and look at the facts.
She is with you not him :) so feel lucky
you should try not to compare yourself to him
i did the exact same thing read convos and so on and i know how it eats you up inside! but seriously its in the past.
she obviously loves u or she would be with you.
penis size isn't all that counts so dont worry about it :)
it the way you use it :)
No need to be jelous just stay strong and remember he isnt as good as you as if he was he'd still be with her but hes not and you are
hope ive been helpful
xx
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reader, bobbles32  +, writes (3 March 2009):
 Facebook, Myspace and hyves ruin relationships. You should never have gone and looked at her old msgs to someone she used to care about. She was with him and now she's with you. If she wanted to be with him then she would be. I'm sure that if she's with you and not him then you're special to her.
If you don't feel like this is the case and that you're just her "heart-filler" you probably need to get out of the relationship quick. You're having serious doubts.
If you REALLY like the girl then tell her how you feel and tell her you read their past msgs.
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