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writes:I got pissed off at my boyfriend for glancing at a strip club when we were driving to dinner, is this psycho jealous of me? We've been seeing each other for 6 months and I've finally come around to accepting that he may look at other girls from time to time but when we passed the strip club I felt angry and jealous that he might want to look at a bunch of naked women with plastic jugs. What can I do to not feel so jealous? And is it normal to feel jealous and possessive in the beginning of a relationship and does that eventually wear off over time?
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (13 August 2007):
 Hi
Guys are extremely visual usually. They like to look, but they wouldnt always touch. I wouldnt worry about that too much. Strip clubs are rare in this area & if i drove past one with a guy in the car i know for sure he would look, hoping to catch a glimpse! hehe
Also i think for some people it is normal to be a bit jealous at the start of a relstionship, i am exactly like that! Its basically just because you are sussing them out, and dont yet know where their bounderies lie. Once you get to know them & trust them, it goes. It did for me anyway, i was like it with my childrens dad at the start but i was with him 9 years in the end & knew after a few months, he would never do anything to hurt me.
Dont worry.
C xxxxx
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reader, penta +, writes (13 August 2007):
 All guys like to look. It doesn't have anything to do with your relationship, or how much he loves you. Feel confident in your relationship and let this go.
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reader, niceguy07 +, writes (13 August 2007):
 your boyfriend is what we all call "a guy". not to make light of your situation at all, but if u got angry at him lookinh at a strip club, i think you would break up with him if u knew what was inside his head. i have a girlfriend of 8.5 months, and i am lucky to have such a trusting one. trust however is the key issue. its known that guys think about sex almost every 10 seconds. as for me, when i am at work and i see a sexy woman all that i can think about is how naughty she could be in her tight blue jean skirt that she is wearing. now that does not mean anything, every guy thinks about that. if action is taken on thoughts then thats an issue, but if not then who he comes home to or he he loves is what matters. i love my girlfriend as much as i love life, and i would never hurt her, but these tendencies are natural for men. also if he looks at porn, its a good thing cuz its him being monogamous..he'd rather masturbate then do anything to hurt you.
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reader, Blackruby +, writes (13 August 2007):
I think you are over reacting a tad, jealousy usually happens when a person is insecure about themselves or their relationship. You won't get over your jealousy until you confront your insecurities and talk them over with your boyfriend, if he is serious about you then he will reassure you that even if he did go to a strip club, he'd look but not touch and it's you he'd come home to.
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