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writes:hi why do people make like they're into you but they really aren't secretly because all they really want from you is use you for sex while they sneak behind your back to find a bf or gf then they dump you and don't feel bad, wrong or guilty for doing that? This happened to me last night and I'm in so much shock that I don't know if this is real or if I'm dreaming. I'm numb. I know karate and I feel like using it on him, but of course will not. I'm a black belt and when we would play fight I always slammed him and won. How do I cope with what that nasty using low-life has done to me? He abused my trust in him to make me think he cared about when all along he didn't give a thought about me. I hate him for playing on my emotions and love for him all to just sex me then dump me. I need help because I don't want to mess him up, even though he's deserves it. That grimy bastard. Reply to this Question
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reader, Tony tony  +, writes (8 May 2011):
Is this help free could you let me no thank you
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reader, Capri2  +, writes (13 March 2011):
When I was in high school I learned that half the guys knew exactly what to tell to a girl to make her believe that he was in love with her. All this in order to get sex. It's a technique almost any guy from 14 and over can learn easily from his friends.My friends and I didn't liked that and never involved in such behaviour. That's why it took us a couple of extra years to have girlfriends. But we had our principles and we didn't liked being fake and cheaters.What I'm describing to you is something that goes on all over the world. And the guy you have been with did everything he needed to do, in order to have sex with you. That was a planned thing and, if he was good at it, there wasn't much you could do about it. I don't know how long have you been seeing each other before you got physical. But sometimes making the guys wait could do the trick. If he's a player and he thinks it will take months to get what he wants, he will end up the show and try with someone easier.As I told you, this happens in a lot of cultures surprisingly. And you can separate guys in this two groups. Usually, the player kind is more attractive to girls because he's better looking (know how to dress and move) and other girls are interested in him too. But, of course, there is no general rule to know it beforehand.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2011): Great answer from shawncaff!
There are lots of good people out there who wouldn't think of treating someone so badly.
As shawncaff says, if you keep picking the wrong guys then maybe you need to get to the bottom of why that is?
For sure, you'll be more cautious in future and that will be no bad thing. Don't give yourself to someone too quickly, make them wait. The ones who are worth knowing will wait to get to know you before jumping into bed with you.
Keep strong and keep visualizing pulverizing this guy. With every kick he'll get smaller and smaller until he just disappears!
I wish you a happy, healthy and peaceful life.
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reader, ironman777  +, writes (13 March 2011):
have to agree with the previous guy, 93% of guys wouldnt dream of playing with someonews emotions in that way. Look through the other posts there are heaps of men who have girls who dont love them or cheat on them or just wont committ and they get terribly hurt as well.there are men who say all they want is sex and seem to do anything to get it and they always end up sad individuals with no life and no lasting relationships. If I were you, I'd move on as soon as possible and find some other man who will appreciate your ass whipping skills and the love that seems to be present in you...good luck with the search
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2011): Not all guys use women for sex. You just so happen to run into a sociopath who can't even help himself which is why he abused your trust and used you foer sex. Don't take it personal because it has nothing at all to do with you. The pity goes out to him because he's stricken with severe mental illness. Cut all contact with the head case. He can't even help himself. Pity the sick lunatic.
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reader, shawncaff  +, writes (13 March 2011):
 I am sorry to hear this happened to you. But I think he's in the minority. Most people have some sense of decency and would not use you like this.The truth is, using another person for sex while pretending to love and care for them is sociopathic behavior: it's about viewing the other person as an object, deprived of humanity. The only answer is to stay clear of such people and get them out of your life. If you find yourself continually meeting such low-lifes, you should figure out why, because there are decent chaps out there who will treat you well, and whose necks you won't have to break with your karate skills.Best wishes.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 March 2011): Whatevere you do don't do anything illegal against him because it might land you in jail. That useless slut bucket has already done enough harm to you so don't give him the pleasure of doing anymore. I say the best thing to do is spread the word all over about how he uses females for sex that'll throw a huge wrench in his game. I know you're devastated behind how dirty he did you but try to see the up side of it. You know what he's all about now and you don't have to waste anymore of you on him. He's no longer your greasy trash. He's a slimely sleazy wothless gutter rat and no good will come to him. Karma will get him sooner than later. Just wait and in a matter of time his life's gonna go haywire in all areas from being heart broken by some other girl to losing his livlihood. Don't you fret payback is real and it's a b*tch that will take care of him without you having to do one little thing. Just watch you'll see the cruel bastard go down.
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