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writes:I posted here about a week ago. I have been in a relationship with an international student for awhile but his parents suddenly made a last minute decision for him to return to his home country. So he left a few days ago. It's hard on both of us because we were very much in love. We would have continued our relationship as normal if his parents had not suddenly made this decision. I feel so upset and left behind. What should I do? I know we shouldn't contact one another. We said our goodbyes and wrote a last email letter. But it's such a bad feeling. If it was a real breakup then maybe I could get over it. But we were planning to stay together until this suddenly happened. After that happened we had two weeks to spend time together. We've decided not to do a long distance relationship because we both agree it's not the time and place. We are both too busy with college and work. Financially (trying to see one another) it's just not ideal. How can I forget about him and move on? It feels so cruel. I'm doing the same things every day without him now, it's like I'm living an empty shell of before. I've hung out with some friends but I miss him dearly. I hope he has it better since he's in a different environment.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 September 2012): I actually know how you're feeling.Sometimes you feel okay because you two didn't break up because you two don't love each other.Sometimes you feel horrible because you wonder if it's because you two don't love each other enough to survive the distance.Worst part, you're the one left behind. Everything in this city reminds you of him. The places where he hold your hands, the places where he kissed you, and the places where he kneel down and joked about proposing. It'd be so much easier if he's a jerk, but he isn't. He was so nice and the two of you click so well. That's why you can't forget and move on.Sorry that my reply doesn't help at all. I just hope that you can find the answer to your question. And that I will too one day.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (18 July 2012):
 I can see how this must be very hard, but you both have done the right thing by not remaining in contact, yes I know it is difficult and you miss him, but it would just be so much worse if you where both still talking to each other. Goodbyes are never easy. But the good thing is time does make things much better. If he needs to be with his parents then I guess that is up to him. If you both cannot be together then I guess you just have to accept it. Keep yourself busy, hang out with friends and in time it will become easier.
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reader, Angel S  +, writes (18 July 2012):
 Hi,
Wow, I really know how hurtful it can be to be surrounded by memories of somebody and you feel like you can't escape and soon they are all your thinking of even though its the last thing you need!
Honestly in a situation like this Time is the best healer, although its not helpful at this stage, I know that time really is the best way to move forward. It is the best option I can give you if you really want to cut all ties with this guy.
Although on the other hand, if you did feel like you really don't want to break up with this guy then you really don't have too. I know it isn't ideal with college and work commitments and finance issues but technology can really make all the difference with long distance relationships. Just don't think that you have just one option.
If you accept that you do want to move on, then surround yourself with friends, college work, the future, everyone can make the most of what they have if they put their mind to it.
I know how you feel, if you ever need to talk feel free to contact me on this website.
Just take it a day at a time....
Xo Xo
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