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writes:Ok, I am 16 years old and I have dated this girl on and off for about 6 years I love her with all of my heart. About 6 months ago she told me that she was raped and I just comforted her for awhile, later she came out and told me who did it. It was two guys that I had known and I vowed to get back at them. Well time went by and I was going to let it sit and I was going to get back at these cats I just couldn't do it while everyone knew I was mad at them. Well recently one of them was shot and murdered and now I have the feeling of knowing that I cannot do anything about this incident that happened to my girlfriend and when I think about it, it eats me up I go crazy thinking to myself like where was I at why couldn't I help her and stuff it almost puts me to tears I love this girl with all my heart and I would do anything for her, I mean anything. I'm just dieing not knowing what to do here. Reply to this Question
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (16 April 2009):
 aww hun!your a really genuine guy!you shouldn't feel things like that thinking "why wasn't i there to help?"you weren't to know!the fact you're here now with her to make her realise that not all guys are b******s you comforted her that goes along way with a girl.she should really tell someone like the police that it had happened because who knows other girls maybe at risk.i mean obviously she won't want to relive it but i'm sure she won't want other girls going down the same road.the best thing you can do for her is just be there for her when she needs it most just really staying whom you are for her because from where i stand you seem one hell of a guy and she's so very lucky to have you.all you can really do is comfort her when she needs it and constantly remind her you're here NOW to protect her and she's not alone anymore!don't beat yourself up about the past because you weren't to know!she wasn't even to know!just think forward with her and think what can i do NOW to protect her.rather than why wasn't i there to protect her back THEN.you're an awesome guy!!i wish there were so many more like you!world would be a mellower place!!Chin up hun :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 April 2009): the_phoenic is very right here. Don't forget you are 16...i mean u do realize you may be over reacting a bit right? Anyway consider the future of your actions, the consequences that will occur both good and BAD. If you want to be there for her then be there for her, you don't have to avenge her to show her that, and you'll prolly make it worse when they take you away and she has no one to rely on. In her case, I hope she sees a shrink or some sort of help. Goodluck to you both. Sorry to hear about the circumstances.
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reader, the_phoenic +, writes (16 April 2009):
my dear your devotion to your gf showsgood devotion,but never put your self in troubletell your gf to tell the police and they well do there roll,but if you revenged be your self you well find your selfbehind the bars !!and your recent gf well continue her life mostly withanother mansimply convince her to tell the police and support her tell the end
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