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writes:Im 15 years old.. And i have been sexually active since i was 12 yes i know very young well i hanged around wrong crowd and got myself in lots of trouble... Well all of my sex partners played me as in had sex with me than walked away.. well just recently i just began a relationship with a boy and after 2 days where had sex, in that same week we did it 2 times, well i found out a few days later he told his friends everything of what we did, and he told one of his friend to tell me he got what he wanted and now he done with me. Well me and his friend got into a little arguement and he just blast it out in front of all his other friend which were my friends... man i feel soo low right now . Im so dumb because all my family and frieds that new of my past partners told me to not have sex with him quick wait a few weeks or even months b4 giving it ... man i dont know how to deal with it. The embarrasment and the fact that i have been used... :( AGAIN!!! Reply to this Question
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reader, RosesAreRed86 +, writes (29 October 2009):
You did all this to yourself. Take some responsibility for your actions. Instead of blaming these boys for making you feel terrible and bad, you should blame your own bad judgement. Having sex with someone after just a few days is slutty behavior in ay sense of the word. Especially at your age. And good luck finding a decent boyfriend or husband one day if you keep up acting the way you've been doing. No guy wants to be with the village bicycle long term.
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reader, saint2cut3 +, writes (29 June 2009):
saint2cut3 is verified as being by the original poster of the question You guys are very helpful and you all are very right... Im worth so much more than these jerks, i deserve better. And of course at my young age i should be having sex, ill try to quit on that. And jenni75 you are correct about not having a father present in the household and my mom is forever out of the house working her butt off...
Well again thanks alot you all gave me great advice..
thanks again....
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reader, jenni75 +, writes (29 June 2009):
First I have to say, you are way to young to be having sex. Sounds like you are trying to find love through sex, but you have to relize love don't come that way. You first have to find love then the sex comes later. And you can't be in love after 2 days, you can't know each other that well to be that intimate. Sounds like this happens to you alot, I would stop and step back to get a good look at your life and find out why this is happening so much. There could be an underlying problem that is causing you to do the things you are doing. I don't know how your family life is, but maybe you should start there. Is your parents active in your everyday life? (Sounds like they arent since you have been sexually active since 12) A lot of girls your age do things like this to get attention, or love, a lot of them don't have a father in their life and they are trying to fill that void, maybe once you figure what is causing you to act the way you do, you will be able to stop the behavior. As far as the embarassment goes, it is something that happens to everyone some time in their life. I have a feeling with this particular boy, even if you didn't have sex with him he would of told everyone you did. I know you want to get even at the moment but that can cause more trouble than it is worth.. Give it awhile and these kids will be on to something new, and harassing someone else. I notice in your statement friends and family told you not to give it up for a few weeks or months...is this family parents??? No one can tell you what to do, you have to relize you are a very special individual, and what you have to offer can wait, and ther you are worth waiting for, and if any male thinks otherwise he isn't worth it anyway.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 June 2009): Sweetheart, i say this with the utmost respect, from one girl to another. you are WAY to young to be having sex. My best friend was like that and till this very day shes labeled as a whore, keep in mind we're 26 now and this was back in high school! ...yeah, that bad. if you have any self respect for your self please, PLEASE slow it down, and be a kid! you have the rest of your life to have sex. and guess what, if you feel like your being used, guess what, odds are you ARE being used. hell, i remember that age, i was like one of the only people that was still a virgin. yeah, they would make jokes every once in awhile, but thats nothing compared to being called a hoe the rest of your life:/ ~D
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reader, hijacked_dignity +, writes (29 June 2009):
 Well when you make stupid decisions, bad things usually happen. Sorry, it's just the way the world works. Every man you come across in life will use you if you have sex with them within a few days of knowing them. Every guy. There is no 'prince charming'. Guys are naturally wired to have sex with as many women as possible, and if you don't even bother having the dignity to turn them down every once in a while, they are going to take what they want and leave. Wait a couple weeks to have sex with a guy??? How about a few MONTHS. Especially at your age. I mean what if you get pregnant? Do you even have a job to provide for yourself and the potential baby? Part of sex is responsibility. That's why it's usually an adult decision. At your age, there is no way that you can deal with what could happen. You obviously aren't mature enough to make the right decisions even in regard to your own feelings and investments, so maybe you should just cool your jets and try to act the age that you think you are? Be responsible and stop opening those 13-15 year old legs to everyone. It's called self control. Everyone has it. If you like to feel this used all the time, I would highly suggest to continue doing what you are now. It'll keep happening. And pretty sure you'll have a reputation of sorts and you won't be able to change in anyone's eyes. Because you'll always be labeled the 'whore'. So good luck, straighten out, and most of all...grow up.
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reader, QuirkLady +, writes (29 June 2009):
 Well, it sounds like it's time for you to make a change in your life. There are a lot of guys out there who will happily use you for sex if you let them, and unfortunately you ran into a bunch of them. Your friends and family are looking out for you when they say not to have sex too fast...that weeds out the losers who are only after you for your body. What you can do is make a commitment to yourself that you will not make the same mistakes, and keep what you did in the past. Take it as a learning experience, you know?
People will probably clown you for a while, but everybody makes mistakes. Acknowledge that you were silly, and the next time a boy comes after you wait to have sex until he proves that he is a respectful young man who treats you well.
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reader, betty_black  +, writes (29 June 2009):
 Been there, done that and bought the tshirt. Now i wear it proudly. Youre young and easily impressed, and naive. You need to listen when your friends and family warn you against things, you arent always right, and usually arent actually, as i found and you have found out the hard way. I know how it seems that this guy is different and he wants more than that, but truth is that if a guy wants to get into your panties on the first night, he generally is only gonna wanna be there for that night. You really need to start taking it slow. Dont give the guys what they want and if they run off, let them. You deserve more than this, and you really need to start respecting yourself and your body. You dont want to be labelled as easy, or wind up a teen mum or with tons of STI's. Look after yourself, and take my advice when i say, either stay away from guys all together or dont give in to them when they try it on.
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