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writes:Hi! I'm a new user though I've been reading for a while and I've decided to ask an for an opinion. It's simple really :)Let me start out that my boyfriend and I have been together for 8 months, are very close emotionally, and confide in each other. We also share opinions with each other, as well as beliefs and values. I guess the thing is is that we have never argued about things. I know this is good and I like it, but I see all these things on couples needing to be able to "fight right" and I feel like us not arguing is unhealthy. I know that sounds insane but it's true. Anyway I just want an opinion of if you think having a (non acussing) argument from time to time is healthy or not, or is it better that we are so open to eachothers opinions and accept them no matter what? I think it's better without the fighting, but I want to know what everyone else thinks :) thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, largentsgirl89 +, writes (11 November 2010):
 The couple who stops fighting is the couple who has stopped caring. As long as its a "good" fight. Constructive fighting is a lot different than those fights that belittle and are critical to the other person. My boyfriend and I have been together for two years and I enjoy a good fight every now and then.
Plus, hey, make up sex is frickin awesome! You two are fine!! You're not afraid to say hey, we have a problem and let's fix this. Good Luck!!!
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reader, tennisstar88 +, writes (11 November 2010):
 Sorry posters I meant "is" instead of "it"..
OP, I didn't have an argument with my husband till we got married! So yes, it's perfectly normal and healthy not to have any arguments. Also note you guys have only been together for 8 months, not all that long and still getting to know each other..plenty of time for arguments to arise. It's good that you guys are very open minded however, you won't always see eye to eye on everything. Give it some time!
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reader, Molly9945 +, writes (11 November 2010):
Molly9945 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYeah, I realize that someday when we're older we will have a disagreement or two, which will lead to an argument, it's just sometimes that seems impossible because we are so good at compromise and understanding. Thanks for you're opinions and for reassuring me, and I'm still open to more opinions!
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reader, youngmum89  +, writes (11 November 2010):
 i'm with my boyfriend just over a year, we had our first argument 2 months ago, a few months back i wrote on this the same question your asking now and i got back replys saying my relationship is pretty healthy, you time will come for you's to have an argument just enjoy it.
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reader, so_in_love11 +, writes (11 November 2010):
 you guys are perfectly fine! ive been with my boyfriend 6 months now and we are in mad love with eachother. he wouldnt do anything to make me upset on purpose and i wouldnt either... it shows you have a great connection, one most couples envy! so be thankful
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