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writes:My parents are driving me crazy!!! They hardly ever even let me out of the house and if they finally say yes then they're nosy about it. I know theyre my parents and they just love and care about me but it's starting to get old. I never get to hang out with my boyfriend and the lucky times that I do we have to stay at my house with my sister and them. I've tried to talk to them about it before and see if we could make a compromise or something but they just end up yelling at me and saying I can wait till I'm older. I can understand that I'm not old enough to hang out with boys all the time but I'm almost 16! I'm not going to be their baby forever! How do I handle this without being a brat? All I want is some time to be with whoever I want. Do I just get over it and deal with it forever because they're boss? Reply to this Question
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reader, Minou  +, writes (28 April 2011):
You are right. They are your parents and they are restricting you only because they care for you. Maybe they don't want you to go in a bad way since you are really young for all this. They know the best. You should follow their rules and when they think that you are mature enough to let you take your decisions by yourself, they will. Afterall they themselves won't like you to be dependent on others when the right time comes.By what you said, seemed your parent is okay with your boyfriend. You said you want to hang out with him because you want to spend time with him but if your parents is not allowing you to do so why don't you invite him at your own place a few times?In such a way you'll get time to share with him and your parents shall be confident about you couple and maybe can trust him with you :)
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reader, MamaBear +, writes (28 April 2011):
Well, you do have to abide by their "rules" as long as you are under their roof! I'm certain they have your best interests at heart. Are you getting good grades at school? Do you participate in extra curricular activities? Do you have girl friends you spend time with? Just from reading the letters on this site, I see many of the younger people get sexually involved, may have a child at a young age, and do lots of heavy petting. I am certain this is what your parents' concern is that you are still a little young for a serious boyfriend in the picture. You did not mention his age. And, I can assure you that you will not have to wait forever to spend time with a guy. You have plenty of time ahead of you. And, is it necessary to be a brat to get your own way? This tells me you are still immature!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2011): My girlfriend's parents had the same kind of rule. Until she turned 15 if we wanted to go on a date it had to be a triple date which was nearly impossible. Until she turned 16 if we wanted to go out it had a be a double date. They had all kinds of other crazy rules. They would let her ride in a car with her guy friends (one of whom tried to kiss her while she was riding with him once) and her friend who had already been in an accident but they wouldn't let her ride with me, until she had turned 16. In the end there wasn't really anything we could do but to try and make the most of the time we had together at school and to reconcile ourselves to watching a lot of movies at each other's houses. I know that's probably not what you want to hear but if you can show them that they have a reason to trust that you'll follow the rules when you're younger you will be much more likely have a wider range of freedom once you are older.
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