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writes:my bf has treated me really bad and always tries to control me and makes me cry!.(btw i am 18 and he is 21) One night I told my boyfriend I was busy with alot of homework for school , and that he couldn't come over that night , but that he could tomorrow , and he kept demanding that he was coming over.he kept saying that I am coming. and I said not tonightWell then he messaged my best friend on Facebook (he has have never met my friend before but just knew her from me telling him about her! ).well he told told my friend that me and him were no longer together and told her that i was immature , not his type type , and all this other stuff.and then my friend told me what he said . I asked my bf if he meant it when he said that I was not his type and immature then he told me kinda.Well then my bf asked to work things out, and I told him I needed to think about things first , and well the next day i told him I willing to work things out and then my bf told me idkk if I want to.. and I told him well then thats a no and he said its an idk and I said I need to know if you want to work things out by tomorrow , and well he never gave me an answer but then he told me a few days later the only thing I want to work out between us was being friends.then he asked me if we could be hookup buddies but not date and I said no and then I said I wanted a boyfriend not a sex buddy and I said go find another girl to be your sex buddy then he said but your better because you know how to use your tongue and he told me I would make being sex buddies worth your while then I told him Idk what I ever saw in you. and then he wrote me back , and I ignored him and then he kept texting asking me to hangout.. I also found out he also asked out a slutty girl while we were dating and asked her if she was good at sex because he was and also I told my boyfriend I wasn't ready to have sex but he told me thats the only way I can show you I like you and I said no but then we did it and I cried after.and he didn't care at all!! and I feel so betrayed I have never been hurt like this before!whats wrong with this guy!!!now he keeps texting and I keep ignoring him.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (28 April 2011):
 he is a jerk. I agree.
keep ignoring him.
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reader, Spades  +, writes (28 April 2011):
 You have to stand up for yourself. How do you expect him to treat you with respect if you're not treating yourself as such. The more you you explain yourself, trying to get him to see things your way, the more you're negotiating. Don't wait for him. If you're not happy with how things are going then leave. From what you've described here, it's not as if you are bound by children or finances. You're free to go. Which I strongly suggest you do.No one else can help you if you don't help yourself.I think you know what your answer is here..
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2011): Horrible guy. Good that you are ignoring him. Cut your losses and move on. You don't deserve any of the hurt he caused you, but you can use what you learned to help yourself and other girls avoid this kind of jerk in the future.
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reader, chocoholicforever +, writes (28 April 2011):
He's selfish and immature. He has no idea that the world doesn't revolve around him and his immediate gratification, so by cutting him out of your life you're saving not just your own sanity but doing him a favor too of showing him that this kind of attitude and behavior makes women not want to be with him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2011): I agree with the other two people. He is a JERK. Do not get back with him. I have a similar story to yours. I dated this one guy who is at least ten years older than me back then and he turned out to have a motivation towards me of more than a normal relationship. He wanted me to be his sex partner. He pushed me into many things that I was not ready to do. He also hurt me with many things he said. You deserve better. A boyfriend who truly likes you accepts you as you are and do not look into "sex" only. He is the immature one but calling you that!
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reader, BettyBoup  +, writes (28 April 2011):
 This guy sounds like an absolute idiot! Is he really 21, because he sounds like a 12 year old who doesn't have a clue about relationships and doesn't seem to comprehend that other people have feelings and rights to respect and boudaries. It actually sounds like he might have some kind of personality disorder because he didn't seem to have any emotional response when you cried after he conviced you sleep with him after you told him you didn't want to. Now he's messing you around as though he has no idea or doesn't care that you are a person with feelings, its as though he sees you as an object he wants to play with for his own gratification.
His actions and words show he is not a nice guy, he will only mess with you and hurt you further. Please don't allow him back into your life and warn your friends against him. God knows what's wrong with him! What a jerk!
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reader, themagentskie +, writes (28 April 2011):
 He's a jerk. Completely remove him from your life of he's going to step all over you and keep treating you like trash.
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