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writes: i have been dating a man for a few months now, we live quite far apart but try to meet up a couple of times a week. he calls me his girlfriend, But lately i feels like it's more of a friendship than boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. in his texts to me he never as much as end it with a kiss. he says he has never been in a serious relationship before,where i have had too many bad experiences. i am a very warm loving person and i really like him and i hope it works for us. but lately he has cancelled seeing me due to work,and him feeling tired. we havent seen each other for almost 2 weeks now,but he has called me in that time and text me but the messages he sends feel too platonic.I asked him if he was losing interest in me and he said he's just been busy. do i end it now before i end up getting hurt ?? please help i'm so confused!!
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reader, Angel_A +, writes (11 September 2006):
 Hey there,
I agree with CRS, it does sound like he's drifting away and isn't as focused on your relationship as you want and need him to be.
It sounds like he's almost waiting for the relationship to come to a natural end rather than make a decision by just allowing time to pass without seeing you - or of course he could genuinely be having a hard time and be missing you like crazy.
All you can do is ask him when you next see him and ask him to be honest with you, even if it's going to hurt your feelings; a least you'll then know where you stand rather than waiting in the wings not knowing how he really feels.
Good luck x
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reader, Abacadaba  +, writes (11 September 2006):
 Maybe the reson he seems to be losing interest is because as you said he has never been in a serious relaionship, and maybe now he can see that he would like to have a serious one with you, but is afriad to get into it, if i was you, i would see how things continue, because if you back off now, he might think, well shes not the one, but if you keep your chin up and carry on he might think, yes shes the one. I myself am quite dodgey about getting into serious relationships because of what has happened in the past, but recently ive been seeing a girl who i only get to see once maybe twise a week, but because she is so intent on being with me i have decided to go ahead with a serious relationship. Basicly, dont give up hope untill all hope is lost, hopefully he will see that you are serious and in turn will decide to go into a serious relationship. good luck
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reader, CRS698 +, writes (11 September 2006):
 Hi there, It does feel like hes not into the relationship in the same way that you are. maybe you could ask him straight out if he wants to be with you or not?
No one can be too busy to contact you or spend time with you, and the messages? it does sound like he'd just rather be friends.
I hope it works out for you.
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