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writes: my bf has just recently told me that he smokes and has hidden it for 14 months when we have discussed it many of time if he has because i hate i so much.its really effecting me and dont no what to do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 September 2006): I know exactly where you are coming from. I had no idea my boyfriend smoked until one day I walked out and there he was smoking a cigarette! He was a heavy smoker and had entirely hid it from me for a similar amount of time.
At least your bf has come forward and told you he smokes, rather that continue to hide it from you.
If he is going to quit be understanding that he is probably addicted and that it might take him some time to kick the habit completely.
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reader, Abacadaba  +, writes (11 September 2006):
 hello, i myself am a smoker, and with my previous girlfriend i said i would quit for her, and i was serious about doing so, but then we broke up so i continued, you will be surprised what boys will do for thier girlfriend, talk to him about it and ask him to stop, and if he doesnt, tell him that 1) he will not smoke when your with him, and 2) if he smells of smoke/tastes of smoke (kissing) you will not go near him, this is like a sort of mind game which eventually will make him quit all together, and it is 100% reasonable to say that to him, even now with my current girlfriend who is a smoker, i dislike smoking when she is around, because it is unattractive. Lay your rules on the subject, and his feeling for you will make him stop. Good luck
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