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writes:i have never been the center of attention. im always feeling like im never pretty enough, smart enough, nice enough etc. i hate this feeling and im always envious of my friends. im especially jealous of an ex friend of mine, who despite her incredibly bitchy ways (im not exaggerrating. she is actually known around everyone to be a bitch, boyfriend stealer and a liar) is still liked by everyone for really materialistic reasons (shes rich and pretty). i feel like no one even gives a shit anymore about what kind of person you are, just the kind of people you hang out with and how you look and i honestly feel like this wont change even after high school. this is really damaging on my self esteem and on my trust issues. i have an amazing boyfriend and everyone seems to like him, and when he pays me compliments i cant even take them properly and i tell him 'you dont have to' or 'youre lying' because i feel like hes just saying it to be polite. i really dont want to be constantly jealous of people and i want to be able to have better self esteem but nothing i try seems to work. i am involved in sport and community groups, i do pretty well academically and i am friendly with everyone and i have a good close group of friends and yet i still feel like a waste of space.
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reader, gRaa  +, writes (6 June 2009):
 dont worry.
I know how you feel, i am in high school and have never thought or felt pretty. If I had a twin sister, I would be the ugly geeky one with glasses (even though i wear contacts) and my twin would be the beautiful one that gets all of the boyfriends.
I have had MILLIONS of boyfriends and everyone calls me a leapfrog at school.
everyone is special, remember???
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2009): So, who is it you feel so inferior to? Rich little 'bitches' like your "friend"? Where are your own values? Do you have any? If you feel less around people like this, your values are not to high, are they? I could give you a lot of names of people you might feel less around, but most of them are long gone. I would feel less around them, too. We can't all be great discoverers, scientists, physicians, statesmen,..or saints. But, we can be the best person we can be. And that usually does not involve trying to be like lesser people, like "Barbie Doll". She may luck out and get a rich husband...who is looking for a "trophy wife" to make him look better to his cronies. But do you really want the kind of relationship they would have together when the party is over and all the guests have gone home. What do you think they talk about? Oh, well,...you don't care. You just want to be one of them....
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (6 June 2009):
 Just because you don't stand out doesn't mean you're a waste of space! There are plenty of people who feel like they don't stand out! And the people who do stand out often do this for the wrong reasons! Chill out, be yourself, and take a compliment graciously from your boyfriend and just say thanks! X
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reader, cheerwhore23 +, writes (6 June 2009):
you dont have to be jealous of the bitch girl..you have a perfectly fine boyfriend and it seems like your life doesn't suck ass so I dont get why your unhappy..I mean alot of people have it alot worse. But I do know what u feel like sometimes..i think that you need to be happy with what u have=]
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reader, gRaa +, writes (6 June 2009):
dont worry.
I know how you feel, i am in high school and have never thought or felt pretty. If I had a twin sister, I would be the ugly geeky one with glasses (even though i wear contacts) and my twin would be the beautiful one that gets all of the boyfriends.
I have had MILLIONS of boyfriends and everyone calls me a leapfrog at school.
everyone is special, remember???
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