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writes:I have to attend this social event and the woman my husband had a short affair with is going to be there. I never met her before, just know how she looks like from her Facebook. They are not together now, my husband dumped her to come back to his family and we both are trying to make it together again. Should I go to the event or not, if I go and she talks to me should I walk away, or I give her a piece of my mind and leave, any advice please? Thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 June 2009): hi, just wanted to add, yes please got o this even with your head held high. yes, plse act dignified and classy. show her you have morals. but if she does have the audacity to talk to you (and she probably will) just take it in your stride. you can also retort with a sickly sweet answer and SHOW her that she is no threat. this person will try to undermine you but you stand your own. ye,check her out. you are only human. but afterwards go back home and f*ck your man like nobodys business. after all you are his wife, so just take the bulls by the horns and have your wicked way with him. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2009): Ask oldersister gave the perfect answer. I just want to add that it will probably be a little awkward for you, but if you take her advice you will come out the winner. My wife found it awkward being in the company of my ex wife years ago, but it went fine and even though there was some conversation, nothing was said to make the other feel bad. We have also been in the company of each others ex boyfriends or girlfriends and nothing was ever said to them. It's a bit awkward to be in the company of someone who your current partner has had a sexual relationship with, but any tension can be easily hidden. I know that your case is a bit different, but if you follow Ask oldersister's advice it should come off without a hitch.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2009): Go to the event, do not intentionally ignore her nor intentionally approach her. If you two come face to face, be confident, polite, and more of a lady that you kow she is. Make her admire you and regret standing in teh way of such a polite, self respecting person.
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reader, tired82 +, writes (6 June 2009):
 Definitely attend the event. Don't look for her. Enjoy the event. If she approaches you, ignore her and move on. Don't waste your time. Your husband is with you and will be by your side at the event. You have your family to think of, don't let her get in between anymore.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2009): Top answer, Ask oldersister. I was trying to say that, myself.
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reader, SearchingtobeContented  +, writes (6 June 2009):
It depends on whether you could handle or need to handle a confrontation at this stage in your healing process, as that may happen if you do say something. This woman clearly has no moral boundry or respect for herself or anyone else for undergoing this affair. Therefore now that she has lost the man that she felt for some ridiculous reason she had a right too she may too be bitter. I feel that if you were to say something and she was to retaliate then it may take you 2 steps back in fixing YOUR relationship with YOUR husband.
I would not go although you have no reason not to be walking with your head held high. I am saying it purely on the damage it may cause you if you see her having a good time or even trying to steal someone elses man.
If you feel that you would not be affected then go but I wouldnt waste your breathe saying anything too her. I mean how often do the right words come at the right time?? If she starts talking to you just ignore her she is not worth the time of day, let her know she has no right to speak to you and walk away. I hope this helps
Best of Luck Xx
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reader, GrimmReality +, writes (6 June 2009):
 I was a victim of cheating myself. We all have different reactions. Being you have never seen her before, I would suggest you be as cold as possible. Do not approach her...
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If she tries to speak to you, put the bitch in her place..PUBLICLY!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 June 2009): How about a third "alternative"? Just ignore her. If you don't make an effort to speak to her, why should she impose herself on you? There is always the chance some unknowing person will try to "introduce" you to each other. If that happens, just say, "Why, I am so happy to meet you. Have you lived in _____ long?" (wink)
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