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*athleeenie
writes:Im 16 i have been talkin to this guy online; i added him on facebook. Anyway, his profile said 20 but i thought i'd add him anyway. Somehow theres been an error in my account and its been displaying me as 19. We got talking and really clicked. I found out he is 23 in a few months. He called me tonight and we were talking, somehow he thought i was almost 17 but on the phone he found out im actually not 17 for another 9 months. This kinda created and awkward moment and i feel like i've totally made a fool of myself now. We carried on talking and at the end of the conversation he said he'd talk to me thursday and maybe we could meet up soon. I hope i havent scared him off.Is this age gap ok, i feel okay about it as long as he is. help asap??
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reader, Mushgirl +, writes (11 March 2008):
 I think that he would never have mentioned you two meeting up if he cared about your age. My friend is 16 and going out with a 24 year old, they get on like a house on fire. Get in there.
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reader, Kathleeenie +, writes (13 February 2008):
Kathleeenie is verified as being by the original poster of the question I found out today that when my mum was 17 she dated a 25 year old. So im hoping she wont flipp.
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reader, Kathleeenie +, writes (13 February 2008):
Kathleeenie is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI would just like to clear up that he wasnt chatting up 16 year old girls. I added him and originally due to errors on facebook he thought i was 19.
I text him about the age gap thing. He said its quite a large gap but he's prepared to keep an open mind about it as i seem very mature. But it also depends what i think about it.
thanks for your help, anymore advise please feel welcome to post. i'll keep you informed.
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reader, Kawika  +, writes (13 February 2008):
 Okay, in your case I would say that your parents would probably flip out. Normally when you reach adulthood it is a little more tolerated. Besides, age is just a number under those circumstances. I know couples who have an age gap of 10, 15, and 23 years and they are the most happiest couples around.
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reader, sugar_sugar +, writes (13 February 2008):
 I'm a 21 year old female, most of my male friends are about 23 as is my brother and I would be absolutely mortified if any of them were to go out with a 16 year old - the maturity level is very, very rarely the same.
Honestly I cannot imagine why someone of that age would want to when you are clearly in different stages of your life. It's not the number of years between you that is a problem, it is your current age that I believe is quite an issue.
I think your should proceed very carefully, I wonder what is wrong with this guy if he is chatting up 16 year olds on the internet at his age!
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (13 February 2008):
 If he calls again , then he is OK .You are just friends and you can be friends with anyone no matter how old.
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2008): I know yur thinking "oh wat could this girl know?" but i don't really think it will matter because right now the difference if really obvious but later on it will be harder to tell. as long as he really likes you and isn't trying to take advantage of you i think u should go for it!!! xoxo
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reader, MissKin +, writes (13 February 2008):
 The age gap isn't so bad, as long as he is going to treat you right. I'd also like to point out that you thought he was 20 and he is actually 23 showing that you can never be sure if people are who they say they are. you're probably going to get loads of warnings off of people about meeting a man offline, please make sure you're aware of the issue and if you meet him - don't go alone. Now saying that, the actual advice you want is about the age gap. You're 16, he's basically 23.. that is a seven year age gap right? Which is fine.. as long as you're both looking for the same type of relationship. as a teenager you're usually looking for some fun and commitment, without having to be overly intimate until you're ready. As you start dating older and more experienced men you'll realise that some older guys expect sex. sex. sex all the time and you must not feel pressured into anything before you're ready. Always make sure you feel respected and cared for, if you do not - do not stick around. As long as you want the same things you'll be fine. I'm sure you'll get lots more advice, at least, i hope you do. Please be careful and take care.
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reader, Auntie Amber :) +, writes (13 February 2008):
 Well do not get serious with this boyhowever nice he is, or whateveryoull get grief from other peopleand he will have power to take a massive advantage over youkeep friendship, it will work out,make sure you TELL HIM you only want to be friendsas if you really like him, he will take advantage, or you may be hurt or let down
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