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*obynnex
writes:Why do they always have to lead you on then break your heart? Please answer me that.I totally changed who I am for this guy. The way we met was weird but we've been seeing each other since August. Now he's been seeing some lassie(who is a total ugly dog) behind my back which does bother me because we aren't together but he gets annoyed when I talk to a guy.I've had my heart broken before and I thought awe, not all guys are like that but I give up now. I have trust issues with men as it is.I'm really sorry about ranting and if I sound really mean but I'm so pissed off.x Reply to this Question
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reader, Kawika  +, writes (13 February 2008):
 I know your frustration...I hate men too...and I'm a Man. They are inconsiderate, no good, arrogant, smelly, self-centered sluts. But, you gotta admit...you love them...don't you? Isn't there a saying...Women say they want a "nice" guy, but in reality they want an "Ape".
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (13 February 2008):
 There are The Good, The Bad and The Ugly ! If you took a bite on a rotten apple,it does not mean the whole barrel is bad.
If you always get the rotten apples, there must be something wrong with your taste or your method of picking them. LOL!
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 February 2008): You know what, I agree with you! But, some of them are just so damn hot! lisen girl ... im sure u will find the one- when you do- everything will jus 'click' into place- you wont even realise it untill it happens! i bet your wayyy more prettier than her-guys always go for the easier and simple option (simple and easy is soo her) your probably jus way too complicated for him (complicated is good...shows you have an opinion and a way of doing things to your standard)...so forget him!!!!!!! And whilst i am here,, why is valentines day sooooooooooooo hyped up-ergh- and why are all my guy mates just getting to 'loved up' for their own good- everywhere i look i see flowers and cards and ballooons- whats the point anyways?!..balloons will pop...flowers will die and the cardsss just make a mess! lol i want to rant tooooo because my boyfriend is p*ssing me off today :)love and god bless xx
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reader, Dazzerg +, writes (13 February 2008):
 It's worth pointing out that though it tends to be assumed that men are the worst offenders when it comes to these things women are quite capable of being just as bad and as hurtful. Each human being is an individual and their gender does not automatically make them bad or liable to 'lead on'.
It sounds to me like he wants to have his cake and eat it, which I totally agree is not fair; he cant expect to have sole claim over you while not giving you the same thing. I'm not totally sure whether you are actually properly together from what you say here; it seems like you are in a casual relationship of some kind. If that is the case then you need to be very firm with him and basically say that if he wants you to himself then he has to give himself just to you; otherwise you will talk to who you please. Set out the ground rules clearly because if you dont then these things become very tangled and confused very quickly.
Dont change who you are because that is not a good basis for building a strong relationship if you really do want something that lasts. Find somebody who values and wants you for being you. Good luck. :)
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