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writes:I am feeling so sad and depressed. This has been a bad year with deaths, son being in jail, being sick, getting fired, etc.I feel like I have been abandoned by my friends and family when I need them most. Maybe I feel it was one-sided and everything was great when I am successful and things are going well and I can do things for them and be supportive but now I need support nobody is around.I had one friend of 10 years ditch me because his mail order bride he married 3 days after first meeting but he finds out is already married to someone else, told him to stop speaking to me.My mother stopped speaking to me and my son because we wouldn't give her $1000.Then when I got fired and was sick many of my friends defriended me on facebook and won't speak to me anymore. Some are people I helped find work when they were down and out.My husband's side of the family stopped speaking to us after the patriach of the family died. I just don't understand why this has happened or what to do about it. It makes me angry about humans in general and angry about all the help and support I have given these people over the years.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 November 2010): I believe you. Same thing happened to me :(
We build people up and create them to be something bigger then they are. When they let us down..tis' an emotional, painful let down. Sometimes, people would rather point the finger then take the blame. Ever notice? these people who point a finger..have three fingers pointing back at themselves. KARMA. What comes around, goes around.
Get rid of your anger.. then, move forward. flush iT. Quality friends are better than quantity friends.. join a group, a hobby, or even get trained in a new field.
Smile! when you smile nobody is interested because they are only snoopy when you are sad. Yeah.. misery is easy and happiness takes work. Tomorrow is the first day of the rest of your life! hmm? christmas is around the corner..perhaps offer some help at a local kitchen or even the jail. Who knows where you will land now that all of the obstacles are removed? rainbows after the storm. Cheer up! SMILE (: now :)LOVE YOU ~/~
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2010): This is the original poster.
No I don't owe anyone anything. My mother ran up her credit cards sending money to my leach sister and wanted to file bk and thought I should pay for it for her.
Come to think of it, the long term friend only came around when he was having girlfriend problems and wanted to complain about her.
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reader, TasteofIndia  +, writes (17 November 2010):
 I have some of the same questions... what is the rest of this story? Also, why did your Mother want $1000 dollars? Do you owe it to her? Did she just want a thousand bucks?
Maybe you have a problem communicating properly. Look at yourself and ask yourself why people might be de-friending you and not speaking to you? Are you overwhelming others?
It could be that you just have really crappy friends who only like you at their convenience - when you have good pay and can bail them out and help them out all the time. But, when it's you, suddenly they don't have time.
Get involved with new activities and make some new friends. Good luck!
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reader, Jmtmj +, writes (17 November 2010):
 I think there's more to this story... it doesn't quite add up. Why would people defriend you on facebook because you got fired and were sick?
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