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*omoe
writes:Hi, i am dating a guy for 7 months now, for about a month we started living together. He says he loves me and really takes care of me. Also he works a lot and whenever he is free he spends his time with me.The problem is, that in spite of all i feel so jealous of his ex. He lived with her for 8 years but they split because she started seeing someone else. Now she lives with the other guy. my boyfriend sayd he talks to her sometimes over skype and that's all. But when i moved in his place there were still some of her clothes and shoes left. I told him i dont like that and he got rid of them - i dont exactly what he did with the stuff. Now there is none of her stuff left in the aparment. It all sounds like may be i shouldnt worry but i have a strange feeling that he still isnt entirely over her. and that i am like the best replacement he could get..
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reader, Momoe +, writes (17 November 2010):
Momoe is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for your answers!
I was really obsessing with thoughts about her i felt i am losing touch with reality.
It is a good advice to go new places and create our own memories, i will definetely try to do more of that.
I have considered telling him how i feel but i think he would probably say that i am just too insecure and stuff. I only asked him a few days ago casually what she is up to and whether they keep in touch.
Everything seems to going perfect but i just get the stange feeling of being second best and second choice... Or may be it is just me...Anyways thanks again to all who replied.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 November 2010): 8 years is a long time to be with someone and he would have had some good times with her. But she's not the one sleeping next to him each night any more. It is you.
Just enjoy the relationship and go out with each other to new places so you can create new memories together of good times with you. Go on a holiday abroad together or something and then have little days out to places he's never been. He can't then associate times with you with the times he had with her.
Good luck in your future x
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reader, Jmtmj  +, writes (17 November 2010):
 You'll drive yourself mad with this line of thinking... he was with her for 8 years, of course she's gonna have a small place in his heart. But nothing you've said suggests that any funny business is going on with her or that it will.
Stop worrying... for your own sake. He's with you for a reason, try not to lose sight of that.
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