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writes:hi, I need your help please, I have been with my bf 4 months ago but I know him for a long time, I ve lost my virginity with him last year and we are having sex now after we came back together but the problem is that he doesn't care about me when we have sex, he only thinks about his pleasure and I feel like a sex doll and I don't know how to talk to him about this because he doesn't talk that much.. I don't know what to do, please help..
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reader, Roshii  +, writes (26 July 2010):
 id be very careful when talking to him about this, Chances are he may indeed think hes a sex god, And your rolling with pleasure. Aproach it carefuly. And talk about what you want. alternatively Take control of the situation next time you go to have sex. Completely take the rains, if hes doing something you dont like you should feel comfortable enough to tell him you dont like it, its how you tell him thats important here, Taking charge and showing him how you like things is the simplest option.
Talking to him about it will come about eventually, And you dont want to upset his confidence by telling him hes doing nothing or making you feel like a sex doll, Just explain gently that your not getting as much pleasure as he is from the sex, and go from there.
Good luck.
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reader, dirtball  +, writes (26 July 2010):
 Honest and open communication is where you should start. Despite the fact that he doesn't talk much, you need to let him know that what he is doing doesn't make you feel good. If he's a good guy, he will want to make you happy. It should be a giant red flag to you that he hasn't cared about your pleasure at all. Selfishness like that is hard to change unless he wants to.
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